Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Dating Three Girls At the Same Time

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I've met several girls at parties I've been going to. These girls are all great: very pretty, cool personalities, smart, just chill. There's one I like more than the others, and we're going out at the end of the week for a casual lunch date. The thing is, she has two girlfriends I've met at previous parties. They are all best buds. I'm definitely dating the first girl. And both of the other girls have made it known they'd like to date me as well.

I have a strong suspicion that they wouldn't mind if I dated all of them at once, as long as I made a decision eventually to be exclusive with one of them. The reason I think they'd be cool with them is that they have flirted with me as a group, and they don't get jealous if I flirt with one or all of them together. But, I guess the AFC in me says: "choose one."

Is this chode-ish mentality, or am I running a risk of jealousy ruining things? Experienced players chime in...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Scar Tissue

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They are friends? I dunno if that would work out for long. I think what would happen is they would choose for you, meaning two of them would say to their girlfriend "you can have him"

But what do you have to lose
 

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hahah, dude, times like this I like to think life is a game. Your goal in this game, is to juggle banging the 3 friends as long as possible until something comes tumbling down.

Bonus points if you take the tumbling down and make it into a 3some or 4some.


If you really want to take it to the top, set up a 3way or 4 way relationship.
 

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There's actually a fourth girl from this circle of girls who wants to date me too. She's perhaps not as physically attractive, but she's basically the social coordinator of her group. So I may have to incorporate her somehow...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Have fun with it while it lasts, these things have always blown up in my face.

"Chase two rabbits not in the same pasture, lest you lose them both."
 

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What's the worst that happens? 4 chicks ultra pissed at you? Big deal. Figure out what you want from all this, what your "best scenario" is and go for it.

I wouldn't be too concerned with keeping secrets, cause this sort of stuff can build on one another. Maybe not long term sustainable, but anyways have fun with it man.
 
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