"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dating Three Girls At the Same Time

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I've met several girls at parties I've been going to. These girls are all great: very pretty, cool personalities, smart, just chill. There's one I like more than the others, and we're going out at the end of the week for a casual lunch date. The thing is, she has two girlfriends I've met at previous parties. They are all best buds. I'm definitely dating the first girl. And both of the other girls have made it known they'd like to date me as well.

I have a strong suspicion that they wouldn't mind if I dated all of them at once, as long as I made a decision eventually to be exclusive with one of them. The reason I think they'd be cool with them is that they have flirted with me as a group, and they don't get jealous if I flirt with one or all of them together. But, I guess the AFC in me says: "choose one."

Is this chode-ish mentality, or am I running a risk of jealousy ruining things? Experienced players chime in...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Scar Tissue

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They are friends? I dunno if that would work out for long. I think what would happen is they would choose for you, meaning two of them would say to their girlfriend "you can have him"

But what do you have to lose
 

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hahah, dude, times like this I like to think life is a game. Your goal in this game, is to juggle banging the 3 friends as long as possible until something comes tumbling down.

Bonus points if you take the tumbling down and make it into a 3some or 4some.


If you really want to take it to the top, set up a 3way or 4 way relationship.
 

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There's actually a fourth girl from this circle of girls who wants to date me too. She's perhaps not as physically attractive, but she's basically the social coordinator of her group. So I may have to incorporate her somehow...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Have fun with it while it lasts, these things have always blown up in my face.

"Chase two rabbits not in the same pasture, lest you lose them both."
 

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What's the worst that happens? 4 chicks ultra pissed at you? Big deal. Figure out what you want from all this, what your "best scenario" is and go for it.

I wouldn't be too concerned with keeping secrets, cause this sort of stuff can build on one another. Maybe not long term sustainable, but anyways have fun with it man.
 
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