"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dating more than one girl

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Guitar_Whizz

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Hi guys, I am currently dating 2 girls, and neither of them knows about the other girl.

What are your thoughts on this? I have to be honest and say I feel pretty guilty sometimes, as I know it's 'dishonest', but I also get a buzz out of it.

Are you guys generally up front with your girls about the fact you are seeing other women, or do you hide the fact?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The problem is I am supposed to be 'going out' with Girl A, but seeing Girl B on the side.
 
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I don't feel bad about it. Usually, if I'm dating more than one girl at a time, none of us had made ANY insinuation that this is exclusive. In which case, there's no reason to feel guilty.

Alexi
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Unless you are into a serious bonafide relationship there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeing several girls at the same time.

In fact, I always assume that the girls I am initially dating are also seeing other guys. That is just part of the dating process. Eventually you weed out the ones you don't like and end up with the one who is compatible.
 
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exactly..dont feel guilty unless you tell 1 of them hey im not seeing anyone else.

then u would be a liar! :)


but its not wrong....its only human to feel guilty!
 
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Nothing wrong with 'dating' more than one woman.
 
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Originally posted by sapphire
Unless you are into a serious bonafide relationship there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeing several girls at the same time.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't see anything wrong with what your doing bro, but you're playing a dangerous game keeping them 'both' in the dark. Now you have to work twice as hard. It's allot easier for you when one of the girls knows the deal.
 
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Yeah... Tell Girl B about Girl A, let her know she is only coming second place.
But at the same time, try to get Girl A interested in a threesome. With a bit of charm you might pull it off. If Girl B is happy with being the 'other woman' her lower morals will probably sink to a threesome.
 
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I like the way you think Crem...
 
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