"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Dating is REALLY going to suck around here for awhile now!

Schwing

Banned
Joined
Sep 1, 2022
Messages
73
Reaction score
26
Age
41
I live in an area that was in the eyewall of Ian. I mean dead center of it! Already the oldest area of the United States, but Ian took out Ft. Myers beach, and surrounding areas like mine that didn't get storm surge got wind damage. Lots of damage to homes. Lots of restaurants, bars destroyed. I woudn't be shocked with the high insurance rates to come that young people simply move out of FL now.

But Ft. Myers beach is demolished. Think of the MS coastline after Katrina. Everything wiped out. Most spring breakers and young people will go up to St. Pete now. Will take at least 2 years to get it built up.

I imagine a lot of waitresses will be heading out too since nowhere to work. Coastline of Naples, Ft. Myers Beach the hot spots wiped out.

The economy is going to suck too locally. Service based sector and no season coming up now. Anyone who worked on Ft. Myers beach and made their bank from Nov to April is really screwed.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Joined
Mar 9, 2021
Messages
3,442
Reaction score
2,751
Age
31
That's sad to hear. I've never been to that part of Florida, but I'm sure it was beautiful. I would say that it would rebuild, but just building cities that close to the gulf coastline are definitely questionable right now.
 

Schwing

Banned
Joined
Sep 1, 2022
Messages
73
Reaction score
26
Age
41
That's sad to hear. I've never been to that part of Florida, but I'm sure it was beautiful. I would say that it would rebuild, but just building cities that close to the gulf coastline are definitely questionable right now.
I will rebuild but take a couple years. Lets say in three months they open the beach to the public. Will be nowhere to eat or drink, no pier. Basically just sit there.

FL from Venice to Marco Island is really banged up right now but the coastal areas are going to have a localized depression since they rely on the winter season and tourist. Especially Ft. Myers beach, Naples, Sanibel Island.
 

BillyPilgrim

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 9, 2021
Messages
6,136
Reaction score
4,962
Isn't this the oldest median age area in the country?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Dragonfly

Banned
Joined
Sep 27, 2022
Messages
24
Reaction score
16
Location
California
Isn't this the oldest median age area in the country?
It is where The Golden Girls and the movie Cocoon was filmed.

Florida will rebuild especially any costal areas, it is all big money there.
If you want to build a life in that region in the long haul, stay and help rebuild and live through it to tell the tale.
 

SW15

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 31, 2020
Messages
15,422
Reaction score
12,521
Most spring breakers and young people will go up to St. Pete now.
Tampa/St. Pete was also hard hit by the hurricane.

Isn't this the oldest median age area in the country?
Naples is in Collier County, FL, where the median age is 52. Fort Myers is in the more populated Lee County, where the median age is 48.

I can't imagine why 18-25 year old spring breakers would go to an area where the median age person is around age 50.

The dating market in Naples/Fort Myers is more of the Match/OurTime crowd. Those would be the people most affected by the post hurricane dating market, not a 37 year old going for 25-35 year olds.
 

Plinco

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 29, 2008
Messages
3,084
Reaction score
1,945
Age
42
Location
Florida
Tampa/St. Pete was also hard hit by the hurricane.
Not really

I live in an area that was in the eyewall of Ian. I mean dead center of it! Already the oldest area of the United States, but Ian took out Ft. Myers beach, and surrounding areas like mine that didn't get storm surge got wind damage. Lots of damage to homes. Lots of restaurants, bars destroyed. I woudn't be shocked with the high insurance rates to come that young people simply move out of FL now.

But Ft. Myers beach is demolished. Think of the MS coastline after Katrina. Everything wiped out. Most spring breakers and young people will go up to St. Pete now. Will take at least 2 years to get it built up.

I imagine a lot of waitresses will be heading out too since nowhere to work. Coastline of Naples, Ft. Myers Beach the hot spots wiped out.

The economy is going to suck too locally. Service based sector and no season coming up now. Anyone who worked on Ft. Myers beach and made their bank from Nov to April is really screwed.
Life will go on. You have to think more positive and more creative than that. You have a shared experience, now is a good time to make new friends and find new things to do.
 

EyeOnThePrize

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 9, 2019
Messages
1,168
Reaction score
1,934
Age
36
I live in an area that was in the eyewall of Ian. I mean dead center of it! Already the oldest area of the United States, but Ian took out Ft. Myers beach, and surrounding areas like mine that didn't get storm surge got wind damage. Lots of damage to homes. Lots of restaurants, bars destroyed. I woudn't be shocked with the high insurance rates to come that young people simply move out of FL now.

But Ft. Myers beach is demolished. Think of the MS coastline after Katrina. Everything wiped out. Most spring breakers and young people will go up to St. Pete now. Will take at least 2 years to get it built up.

I imagine a lot of waitresses will be heading out too since nowhere to work. Coastline of Naples, Ft. Myers Beach the hot spots wiped out.

The economy is going to suck too locally. Service based sector and no season coming up now. Anyone who worked on Ft. Myers beach and made their bank from Nov to April is really screwed.
 

SW15

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 31, 2020
Messages
15,422
Reaction score
12,521
Not really
I guess I was wrong there. Anyway, more spring breakers went to Tampa/St. Pete anyway than Naples/Ft. Myers. The median age in Hillsborough County (Tampa) is lower than Lee or Collier Counties (Naples & Ft. Myers). Median age in Pinellas County (St. Pete) is similar to Lee County.

 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Schwing

Banned
Joined
Sep 1, 2022
Messages
73
Reaction score
26
Age
41
Tampa/St. Pete was also hard hit by the hurricane.



Naples is in Collier County, FL, where the median age is 52. Fort Myers is in the more populated Lee County, where the median age is 48.

I can't imagine why 18-25 year old spring breakers would go to an area where the median age person is around age 50.

The dating market in Naples/Fort Myers is more of the Match/OurTime crowd. Those would be the people most affected by the post hurricane dating market, not a 37 year old going for 25-35 year olds.
Tampa didn't get hit hard. Just wind gusts into the 60s. Life is normal up there. South of BRadenton got hit harder, especially Venice on South.

And that's kinda incorrect. Sure, it's old folks land but Ft. Myers beach, downtown Ft. Myers is where the few young locals hangout at go on dates etc. The beaches by me the young people are mainly the high school aged girls, way too young (and illegal in FL.)

Downtown Ft. Myers got storm surge as well being on the river and ruined stuff.

Most of the restaurants, date spots south of Punta Gorda near the beach no longer exist. Gone.

I would think also girls in their 20s and 30s who are waiters will also have to move since everything got trashed that had surge. Ft. Myers beach will take at least 2 years.
 
Top