"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dating in mueseum?

michaelhctam

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Ok, I read in a few posts that it is wise to not be predictable and cliche when it comes to dates;

So I thought instead of movies or coffee would it be wise to bring her to a museum? It would be educational, it will be action filled......we get to talk alot about interesting subjects, we can subject ourselves to new things and discover new things together, we can make good memories.

What I am hoping to achieve is (for example) we looked at Modern Art and she saw grafitti on exhibit, so whenever she walks down the street in the city and sees some grafitti she will remember me.

And also it would be a good chance to show my worth by displaying my intellelect :p

What you DJ's think?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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THE_ADDMAN

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absolutely. why not?

If you enjoy museums, go for it.

at the very least, u'll have fun :)
 

Boschy

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Let me ask you this question:

What do you want to do on a date?

It seems like you are trying to find activities that will let you impress her. If you enjoy museums then fine, great, just go. Whether she likes them or not is immaterial. If you both like them then that's obviously a no-brainer.

But what about re-framing yourself as the Prize and wondering how she is going to impress you? :D
 

Jay Jay

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Trying to impress with intellect is a bad idea. Fun is more important. Go to the museum by all means but make sure you don't spend the entire time telling her the latin name for everything. At some stage you better try to feed her to a T-Rex skeleton to "put some meat on its bones" or something...

JJ
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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