Dating apps are dying

[Snag87]

People think they’ll be around forever, and maybe that’s true, but not on anywhere near the scale we’ve seen in previous years. I’ve tried Hinge, Bumble and Tinder over the last few months. I eventually deleted Bumble and Tinder as my experience was just ghastly. I believe I had one match who wasn’t morbidly obese or biologically male. Hinge was a different story. I managed to rack up 150 or so matches, which led to three dates. That said, the difference in quality on Hinge between now and 2021 was palpable. It’s just night and day. In 2021 I could consistently match with attractive women, although I admittedly did struggle to convince them to go on dates with me. In present day virtually all of my matches are average or below average. And it’s not just my matches; there are significantly fewer attractive women on the apps period, which obviously means more competition for them.

I would have a hard time recommending dating apps for any man these days, particularly if the man doesn’t have extremely high SMV. I believe meeting woman organically or through AI match makers is the future.

 

[BPH]

People think they’ll be around forever, and maybe that’s true, but not on anywhere near the scale we’ve seen in previous years.

Strongly disagree.

I spent the past year trying my hand as a dating coach...believing that people would appreciate somebody genuine who gets around with a bunch of women, without all the skits, paid actresses, and fakery of social media.

Know who they bought into instead?

The guys selling dating app makeovers and courses on Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge.

Know why?

Because it's easier to take tasteful pictures, have AI photoshop you, and appear larger-than-life online. After all, that is EXACTLY why social media is so popular; it's a highlight reel. Get rejected on an app? You'll never know. Get a like or a match on an app? You get a push notification and a dopamine hit inviting you to start conversing with a lovely woman who, unbeknownst to you, probably has about 100 other guys messaging her at the same time, and will likely not keep the conversation long enough to meet up for a date.

People go broke on social media pretending to be rich...so I have a hard time believing anybody will be upset about not going on enough dates if they're still getting plenty of matches.

 

[jhonny9546]

Your experience is totally subjective.

We know women will get of course "easier" life, but the app works if you're an attractive man.
(It works for me, even if I am below 165cm)

So I can say it works if you're attractive.
You get what you ask.

Dating apps are there to satisfy the need for sex/intimacy, mostly quick sex.
But there are also deep and meaningful people (rare)

 

[Snag87]

Your experience is totally subjective.

We know women will get of course "easier" life, but the app works if you're an attractive man.
(It works for me, even if I am below 165cm)

So I can say it works if you're attractive.
You get what you ask.

Dating apps are there to satisfy the need for sex/intimacy, mostly quick sex.
But there are also deep and meaningful people (rare)

Of course it’s subjective. That said, why would my results be so much worse than they were 5 years ago?

 

[The Duke]

Yes by the numbers, the apps are dying. One can spend about 5minutes on yahoo finance or google AI and figure that out if you can't see if from being an actual usuer over the years.

Bumble is probably going to get sold again. That company has experienced so much turmoil over the years.

Tinder, Bumble, and Match have all experienced declining user bases that last several years. Hinge is the only one that hasn't shrunk. I would suspect its because Hinge hasn't been around for as long as the others. I also hear a lot of people say its more effective which was my experience as well.