BPH
Master Don Juan
I think she's interested in me. Game her? Or Don't game her?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Dating a best friend's EX?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Dude hell no don't do it.EVEN IF your friend says he's cool with it, he probably isn't he just doesn't want to seem like a douche.
What is more important to you? Your best friend or some dumb girl? There are millions of girls but best friends are hard to find.
What is more important to you? Your best friend or some dumb girl? There are millions of girls but best friends are hard to find.
BPH
Master Don Juan
Well here's something, today I found out Josh (my best friend) is talking to Sam...
The backstory on Sam is that I was in a love triangle, told both girls about each other, the other stayed, Sam was initially ok, then only wanted to be friends.
I told Josh and Neel to come walk and talk and Josh says "Bryce, you are not a leader", so basically I got AMOGed by my best friend at lunch.
How do I handle this? I'd rather have this answered here than start a whole new thread *****ing about it...
The backstory on Sam is that I was in a love triangle, told both girls about each other, the other stayed, Sam was initially ok, then only wanted to be friends.
I told Josh and Neel to come walk and talk and Josh says "Bryce, you are not a leader", so basically I got AMOGed by my best friend at lunch.
How do I handle this? I'd rather have this answered here than start a whole new thread *****ing about it...
okay first of all... who the hell is Sam? You have to give us some more information if we are to help you out bro.
All I can say from what little I know is if that is how your best friend treats you... then you should probably change your standards in friends.
Surround yourself with positive people that lift you up, not people that try to be bigger than you by tearing you down.
SPEAK
All I can say from what little I know is if that is how your best friend treats you... then you should probably change your standards in friends.
Surround yourself with positive people that lift you up, not people that try to be bigger than you by tearing you down.
SPEAK
BPH
Master Don Juan
Sam doesn't matter
What annoys me is that I've known Josh for a year before school started up, and I know Josh can't be taken seriously at times, he's a clown, but girls also dig him and **** him from what I know...
He doesn't tear me down, but he does undermine me, I remember once at lunch I'm quietly sitting and eating my meal because he and the 2 other guys always end up playing "skater" with their ketchup packets. Somebody cracked a joke at me and we all started laughing, but then Josh says "Bryce you know what I love about you? You take all this **** and never do anything"...
...That kinda pissed me off and made me rethink whether or not this guy is my friend anymore
What annoys me is that I've known Josh for a year before school started up, and I know Josh can't be taken seriously at times, he's a clown, but girls also dig him and **** him from what I know...
He doesn't tear me down, but he does undermine me, I remember once at lunch I'm quietly sitting and eating my meal because he and the 2 other guys always end up playing "skater" with their ketchup packets. Somebody cracked a joke at me and we all started laughing, but then Josh says "Bryce you know what I love about you? You take all this **** and never do anything"...
...That kinda pissed me off and made me rethink whether or not this guy is my friend anymore
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Friends (and especially your best friend) > some random girl.
3 months from now she'll probably be banging another guy after you had your paws on her and chances are your friend probably won't be your best one anymore.
Weigh the value of both here.
3 months from now she'll probably be banging another guy after you had your paws on her and chances are your friend probably won't be your best one anymore.
Weigh the value of both here.
BPH
Master Don Juan
How about you give me advice on how to be less of a ***** than berating me for being a *****?
And itishe, please read the posts following the original, I had an update on the subject.
And itishe, please read the posts following the original, I had an update on the subject.
BPH it sounds like you are non-receptive to the advice you have received to stay away from any girl that your best friend has dated. Who cares about any updates? If he is your best friend then don't go after his girlfriend, stop acting like a girl and more like a man with values.
If you don't want to keep your best friend then by all means go ahead and boink her.
If you don't want to keep your best friend then by all means go ahead and boink her.
Mike32ct
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I don't recommend it. Even if your buddy seems cool with it, he will probably secretly resent you for it.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
BPH
Master Don Juan
Well I'm not really interacting with him for a while and I'm gaming the girl
NorwegianDJ
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Well, he didn't really do you anything. He just told you the truth, and you shoudn't hate him for it. Change yourself instead, and keep your good friend. As for the chick, do as you please.
BPH
Master Don Juan
Well out of our little social group he never really chills with me, I feel like he did me dirty with Sam, his ex that likes me is hot, and he's moving away to New Mexico mid-December so...
flirtystudmuffin37
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what kind of friend are you if you're doing that, unless he's cool with it lol
but either way, i wouldn't want to have sloppy seconds man.
but either way, i wouldn't want to have sloppy seconds man.
Capt.Jack Sparrow
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kids, kids, kids...
The answer is simple..
DON'T.
Would you let him date your ex? If you do, and say you're okay with it, trust me you won't be. You'll be feeling like a douche later.
The answer is simple..
DON'T.
Would you let him date your ex? If you do, and say you're okay with it, trust me you won't be. You'll be feeling like a douche later.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Huffman
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Yeah here you just have to control yourself. It's hard, I had to resist advances from a good friend's ex too!
Another friend of mine now is dating one of my exes... I'm okay with it but it still makes things uneasy. We used to talk about girls all the time, obviously that's now taboo... makes things hard.
=> so if you want to stay friends, DONT, because you won't.
Another friend of mine now is dating one of my exes... I'm okay with it but it still makes things uneasy. We used to talk about girls all the time, obviously that's now taboo... makes things hard.
=> so if you want to stay friends, DONT, because you won't.