BPH
Master Don Juan
I think she's interested in me. Game her? Or Don't game her?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dating a best friend's EX?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dude hell no don't do it.EVEN IF your friend says he's cool with it, he probably isn't he just doesn't want to seem like a douche.
What is more important to you? Your best friend or some dumb girl? There are millions of girls but best friends are hard to find.
What is more important to you? Your best friend or some dumb girl? There are millions of girls but best friends are hard to find.
BPH
Master Don Juan
Well here's something, today I found out Josh (my best friend) is talking to Sam...
The backstory on Sam is that I was in a love triangle, told both girls about each other, the other stayed, Sam was initially ok, then only wanted to be friends.
I told Josh and Neel to come walk and talk and Josh says "Bryce, you are not a leader", so basically I got AMOGed by my best friend at lunch.
How do I handle this? I'd rather have this answered here than start a whole new thread *****ing about it...
The backstory on Sam is that I was in a love triangle, told both girls about each other, the other stayed, Sam was initially ok, then only wanted to be friends.
I told Josh and Neel to come walk and talk and Josh says "Bryce, you are not a leader", so basically I got AMOGed by my best friend at lunch.
How do I handle this? I'd rather have this answered here than start a whole new thread *****ing about it...
okay first of all... who the hell is Sam? You have to give us some more information if we are to help you out bro.
All I can say from what little I know is if that is how your best friend treats you... then you should probably change your standards in friends.
Surround yourself with positive people that lift you up, not people that try to be bigger than you by tearing you down.
SPEAK
All I can say from what little I know is if that is how your best friend treats you... then you should probably change your standards in friends.
Surround yourself with positive people that lift you up, not people that try to be bigger than you by tearing you down.
SPEAK
BPH
Master Don Juan
Sam doesn't matter
What annoys me is that I've known Josh for a year before school started up, and I know Josh can't be taken seriously at times, he's a clown, but girls also dig him and **** him from what I know...
He doesn't tear me down, but he does undermine me, I remember once at lunch I'm quietly sitting and eating my meal because he and the 2 other guys always end up playing "skater" with their ketchup packets. Somebody cracked a joke at me and we all started laughing, but then Josh says "Bryce you know what I love about you? You take all this **** and never do anything"...
...That kinda pissed me off and made me rethink whether or not this guy is my friend anymore
What annoys me is that I've known Josh for a year before school started up, and I know Josh can't be taken seriously at times, he's a clown, but girls also dig him and **** him from what I know...
He doesn't tear me down, but he does undermine me, I remember once at lunch I'm quietly sitting and eating my meal because he and the 2 other guys always end up playing "skater" with their ketchup packets. Somebody cracked a joke at me and we all started laughing, but then Josh says "Bryce you know what I love about you? You take all this **** and never do anything"...
...That kinda pissed me off and made me rethink whether or not this guy is my friend anymore
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Friends (and especially your best friend) > some random girl.
3 months from now she'll probably be banging another guy after you had your paws on her and chances are your friend probably won't be your best one anymore.
Weigh the value of both here.
3 months from now she'll probably be banging another guy after you had your paws on her and chances are your friend probably won't be your best one anymore.
Weigh the value of both here.
BPH
Master Don Juan
How about you give me advice on how to be less of a ***** than berating me for being a *****?
And itishe, please read the posts following the original, I had an update on the subject.
And itishe, please read the posts following the original, I had an update on the subject.
BPH it sounds like you are non-receptive to the advice you have received to stay away from any girl that your best friend has dated. Who cares about any updates? If he is your best friend then don't go after his girlfriend, stop acting like a girl and more like a man with values.
If you don't want to keep your best friend then by all means go ahead and boink her.
If you don't want to keep your best friend then by all means go ahead and boink her.
Mike32ct
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I don't recommend it. Even if your buddy seems cool with it, he will probably secretly resent you for it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
BPH
Master Don Juan
Well I'm not really interacting with him for a while and I'm gaming the girl
NorwegianDJ
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Well, he didn't really do you anything. He just told you the truth, and you shoudn't hate him for it. Change yourself instead, and keep your good friend. As for the chick, do as you please.
BPH
Master Don Juan
Well out of our little social group he never really chills with me, I feel like he did me dirty with Sam, his ex that likes me is hot, and he's moving away to New Mexico mid-December so...
flirtystudmuffin37
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what kind of friend are you if you're doing that, unless he's cool with it lol
but either way, i wouldn't want to have sloppy seconds man.
but either way, i wouldn't want to have sloppy seconds man.
Capt.Jack Sparrow
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kids, kids, kids...
The answer is simple..
DON'T.
Would you let him date your ex? If you do, and say you're okay with it, trust me you won't be. You'll be feeling like a douche later.
The answer is simple..
DON'T.
Would you let him date your ex? If you do, and say you're okay with it, trust me you won't be. You'll be feeling like a douche later.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Huffman
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Yeah here you just have to control yourself. It's hard, I had to resist advances from a good friend's ex too!
Another friend of mine now is dating one of my exes... I'm okay with it but it still makes things uneasy. We used to talk about girls all the time, obviously that's now taboo... makes things hard.
=> so if you want to stay friends, DONT, because you won't.
Another friend of mine now is dating one of my exes... I'm okay with it but it still makes things uneasy. We used to talk about girls all the time, obviously that's now taboo... makes things hard.
=> so if you want to stay friends, DONT, because you won't.