BPH
Master Don Juan
I think she's interested in me. Game her? Or Don't game her?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dating a best friend's EX?
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Dude hell no don't do it.EVEN IF your friend says he's cool with it, he probably isn't he just doesn't want to seem like a douche.
What is more important to you? Your best friend or some dumb girl? There are millions of girls but best friends are hard to find.
What is more important to you? Your best friend or some dumb girl? There are millions of girls but best friends are hard to find.
BPH
Master Don Juan
Well here's something, today I found out Josh (my best friend) is talking to Sam...
The backstory on Sam is that I was in a love triangle, told both girls about each other, the other stayed, Sam was initially ok, then only wanted to be friends.
I told Josh and Neel to come walk and talk and Josh says "Bryce, you are not a leader", so basically I got AMOGed by my best friend at lunch.
How do I handle this? I'd rather have this answered here than start a whole new thread *****ing about it...
The backstory on Sam is that I was in a love triangle, told both girls about each other, the other stayed, Sam was initially ok, then only wanted to be friends.
I told Josh and Neel to come walk and talk and Josh says "Bryce, you are not a leader", so basically I got AMOGed by my best friend at lunch.
How do I handle this? I'd rather have this answered here than start a whole new thread *****ing about it...
okay first of all... who the hell is Sam? You have to give us some more information if we are to help you out bro.
All I can say from what little I know is if that is how your best friend treats you... then you should probably change your standards in friends.
Surround yourself with positive people that lift you up, not people that try to be bigger than you by tearing you down.
SPEAK
All I can say from what little I know is if that is how your best friend treats you... then you should probably change your standards in friends.
Surround yourself with positive people that lift you up, not people that try to be bigger than you by tearing you down.
SPEAK
BPH
Master Don Juan
Sam doesn't matter
What annoys me is that I've known Josh for a year before school started up, and I know Josh can't be taken seriously at times, he's a clown, but girls also dig him and **** him from what I know...
He doesn't tear me down, but he does undermine me, I remember once at lunch I'm quietly sitting and eating my meal because he and the 2 other guys always end up playing "skater" with their ketchup packets. Somebody cracked a joke at me and we all started laughing, but then Josh says "Bryce you know what I love about you? You take all this **** and never do anything"...
...That kinda pissed me off and made me rethink whether or not this guy is my friend anymore
What annoys me is that I've known Josh for a year before school started up, and I know Josh can't be taken seriously at times, he's a clown, but girls also dig him and **** him from what I know...
He doesn't tear me down, but he does undermine me, I remember once at lunch I'm quietly sitting and eating my meal because he and the 2 other guys always end up playing "skater" with their ketchup packets. Somebody cracked a joke at me and we all started laughing, but then Josh says "Bryce you know what I love about you? You take all this **** and never do anything"...
...That kinda pissed me off and made me rethink whether or not this guy is my friend anymore
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Friends (and especially your best friend) > some random girl.
3 months from now she'll probably be banging another guy after you had your paws on her and chances are your friend probably won't be your best one anymore.
Weigh the value of both here.
3 months from now she'll probably be banging another guy after you had your paws on her and chances are your friend probably won't be your best one anymore.
Weigh the value of both here.
BPH
Master Don Juan
How about you give me advice on how to be less of a ***** than berating me for being a *****?
And itishe, please read the posts following the original, I had an update on the subject.
And itishe, please read the posts following the original, I had an update on the subject.
BPH it sounds like you are non-receptive to the advice you have received to stay away from any girl that your best friend has dated. Who cares about any updates? If he is your best friend then don't go after his girlfriend, stop acting like a girl and more like a man with values.
If you don't want to keep your best friend then by all means go ahead and boink her.
If you don't want to keep your best friend then by all means go ahead and boink her.
Mike32ct
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I don't recommend it. Even if your buddy seems cool with it, he will probably secretly resent you for it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
BPH
Master Don Juan
Well I'm not really interacting with him for a while and I'm gaming the girl
NorwegianDJ
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Well, he didn't really do you anything. He just told you the truth, and you shoudn't hate him for it. Change yourself instead, and keep your good friend. As for the chick, do as you please.
BPH
Master Don Juan
Well out of our little social group he never really chills with me, I feel like he did me dirty with Sam, his ex that likes me is hot, and he's moving away to New Mexico mid-December so...
flirtystudmuffin37
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what kind of friend are you if you're doing that, unless he's cool with it lol
but either way, i wouldn't want to have sloppy seconds man.
but either way, i wouldn't want to have sloppy seconds man.
Capt.Jack Sparrow
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kids, kids, kids...
The answer is simple..
DON'T.
Would you let him date your ex? If you do, and say you're okay with it, trust me you won't be. You'll be feeling like a douche later.
The answer is simple..
DON'T.
Would you let him date your ex? If you do, and say you're okay with it, trust me you won't be. You'll be feeling like a douche later.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Huffman
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Yeah here you just have to control yourself. It's hard, I had to resist advances from a good friend's ex too!
Another friend of mine now is dating one of my exes... I'm okay with it but it still makes things uneasy. We used to talk about girls all the time, obviously that's now taboo... makes things hard.
=> so if you want to stay friends, DONT, because you won't.
Another friend of mine now is dating one of my exes... I'm okay with it but it still makes things uneasy. We used to talk about girls all the time, obviously that's now taboo... makes things hard.
=> so if you want to stay friends, DONT, because you won't.