RickTheToad
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I would think it would make a person happier and smile if the comedians were funny.Do comedy dates really open them up like that?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I would think it would make a person happier and smile if the comedians were funny.Do comedy dates really open them up like that?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
With this one, we did all above during the first date when we were in the back at the second bar. She was also reaching out every other day up until the blowout. Completely strange situation. Still a bit dumbfounded.Then I would let my hand start wandering once the movie started...on their knee...up their thigh...rub their pvssy through their jeans eventually...
I ALWAYS made sure whatever I chose in the beginning it gave me opportunities to escalate...if you are not doing this you are making things a lot harder on yourself...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yea, she's the one who called me arrogant and ****s for saying she was lucky she was going to a comedy show with me to make her feel better and happy. Prob is, she was a good kisser, nice boobs, nice ass, so there was a connection. Not sure if 3 weeks is too late to respond to give her a second chance. Again, not sure why she'd send me a messenger text when we've never communicated through messenger before. All before has been either through the dating app, text or phone.Yeah FB makes friends suggestions based on the phone numbers you have stored on your phone (this happened because she had FB Messenger and your ph no in her contacts).
As for reaching out...she sounds (if I recall from previously reading this thread) like someone who will be a handful and any little thing could tick her off. But, you can always go out, have fun and when it gets to be crazy, break it off.
Don’t get sucked into her frame. Your instincts are right in questioning why she’s reaching out on FB. It is strange. Like you said why reach out on FB if she has your number.Yea, she's the one who called me arrogant and ****s for saying she was lucky she was going to a comedy show with me to make her feel better and happy. Prob is, she was a good kisser, nice boobs, nice ass, so there was a connection. Not sure if 3 weeks is too late to respond to give her a second chance. Again, not sure why she'd send me a messenger text when we've never communicated through messenger before. All before has been either through the dating app, text or phone.
Nah, it's never too late unless the woman tells you to not contact her. Depending on what she said I would take a screenshot of her msg and send that to her (via txt, not FB) along with a txt. I don't know, something like "Hey [name], I rarely use FB so I just saw this msg when I logged in. I just wanted to let you know that I appreciated it. It's too bad we started off on the wrong foot due to a silly misunderstanding but it happens. Hope you're doing well!Yea, she's the one who called me arrogant and ****s for saying she was lucky she was going to a comedy show with me to make her feel better and happy. Prob is, she was a good kisser, nice boobs, nice ass, so there was a connection. Not sure if 3 weeks is too late to respond to give her a second chance. Again, not sure why she'd send me a messenger text when we've never communicated through messenger before. All before has been either through the dating app, text or phone.
Man, stop overthinking about every little beep, just follow your guts feeling. Text her if you like her. If she's still interested she will reply accordingly, if not, move on. pretty simple.Not sure if 3 weeks is too late to respond to give her a second chance. Again, not sure why she'd send me a messenger text when we've never communicated through messenger before. All before has been either through the dating app, text or phone.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Diver Dan is right. Take a shot, if it misses, don't take it personally. In this case, since she reached out, you're just returning the favor.Man, stop overthinking about every little beep, just follow your guts feeling. Text her if you like her. If she's still interested she will reply accordingly, if not, move on. pretty simple.