RickTheToad
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I would think it would make a person happier and smile if the comedians were funny.Do comedy dates really open them up like that?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I would think it would make a person happier and smile if the comedians were funny.Do comedy dates really open them up like that?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
With this one, we did all above during the first date when we were in the back at the second bar. She was also reaching out every other day up until the blowout. Completely strange situation. Still a bit dumbfounded.Then I would let my hand start wandering once the movie started...on their knee...up their thigh...rub their pvssy through their jeans eventually...
I ALWAYS made sure whatever I chose in the beginning it gave me opportunities to escalate...if you are not doing this you are making things a lot harder on yourself...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yea, she's the one who called me arrogant and ****s for saying she was lucky she was going to a comedy show with me to make her feel better and happy. Prob is, she was a good kisser, nice boobs, nice ass, so there was a connection. Not sure if 3 weeks is too late to respond to give her a second chance. Again, not sure why she'd send me a messenger text when we've never communicated through messenger before. All before has been either through the dating app, text or phone.Yeah FB makes friends suggestions based on the phone numbers you have stored on your phone (this happened because she had FB Messenger and your ph no in her contacts).
As for reaching out...she sounds (if I recall from previously reading this thread) like someone who will be a handful and any little thing could tick her off. But, you can always go out, have fun and when it gets to be crazy, break it off.
Don’t get sucked into her frame. Your instincts are right in questioning why she’s reaching out on FB. It is strange. Like you said why reach out on FB if she has your number.Yea, she's the one who called me arrogant and ****s for saying she was lucky she was going to a comedy show with me to make her feel better and happy. Prob is, she was a good kisser, nice boobs, nice ass, so there was a connection. Not sure if 3 weeks is too late to respond to give her a second chance. Again, not sure why she'd send me a messenger text when we've never communicated through messenger before. All before has been either through the dating app, text or phone.
Nah, it's never too late unless the woman tells you to not contact her. Depending on what she said I would take a screenshot of her msg and send that to her (via txt, not FB) along with a txt. I don't know, something like "Hey [name], I rarely use FB so I just saw this msg when I logged in. I just wanted to let you know that I appreciated it. It's too bad we started off on the wrong foot due to a silly misunderstanding but it happens. Hope you're doing well!Yea, she's the one who called me arrogant and ****s for saying she was lucky she was going to a comedy show with me to make her feel better and happy. Prob is, she was a good kisser, nice boobs, nice ass, so there was a connection. Not sure if 3 weeks is too late to respond to give her a second chance. Again, not sure why she'd send me a messenger text when we've never communicated through messenger before. All before has been either through the dating app, text or phone.
Man, stop overthinking about every little beep, just follow your guts feeling. Text her if you like her. If she's still interested she will reply accordingly, if not, move on. pretty simple.Not sure if 3 weeks is too late to respond to give her a second chance. Again, not sure why she'd send me a messenger text when we've never communicated through messenger before. All before has been either through the dating app, text or phone.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Diver Dan is right. Take a shot, if it misses, don't take it personally. In this case, since she reached out, you're just returning the favor.Man, stop overthinking about every little beep, just follow your guts feeling. Text her if you like her. If she's still interested she will reply accordingly, if not, move on. pretty simple.