idiot_boyfriend
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Walking through a forest or something, where you are exploring in nature is indeed great. I've done that too, it gets girls relaxed and in a great mood. Perfect time to pull the first kiss on her.Originally posted by The_Shezzler
I went Hiking with a girl once, I only suggested that we walk for a couple of miles.....6 hours later and we were still walking - Great Conversations, Good KINO and a fun time.
Give it a try - 1-10 depending on how long you can stretch out a convo - easy!
Sarge On...
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Not hating or disrespecting but that is f*ckd up. .Anyhow all this date ideas is cool and all but alot of it is limited by our age becuase not everybody have their licence(which suck ass). But overall a good post.Originally posted by phish
the gr8 db8,
where to take ur d8.
mini golf, balls r good.
if its dark, take her 2 teh park.
take it to the hall, take her to the ball.
to the fair, in a pair.
if its $ ur conserving, the amusement park is deserving.
take her 2 the beach, munching on teh peach.
if it all goes gr8, u will m8.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This is the funniest thing i've ever read on this forum.CyranoDeBergerac said:Shave your heads and go wig shopping. hehehehe
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I don't agree with your last comment. Spontaneity is great, but having an actual plan can make all the difference. You might just be a last-minute planner (if you pick things in the moment). Brainstorming ahead of time is a major plus imo.DJ4Real said:Mix the date up...don't always do ordinary stuff.
Go swimming (late at night).
Take a nice ride out somewhere (with food and drink).
or you could mix up some of the ordinary stuff:
Movies and Park
etc...The best dates are those that are unplanned.
Your game should always be "on". However, she is just a friend at the moment (even though she was an ex at one point).Ken88 said:Ok so I am taking my ex girlfriend to prom. It has been almsot a year since we went out and she recently started instant messaging me to me a few weeks ago out of the blue. I want to hang out with her a few times before hand so its not akward. I dont know if she just wants to go to prom or is into me again. What are some good idea for things or places to do/ go to and hang out? And how should I act if we see a movie or somethin? Should I jsut act like its a friend or turn on my "game."?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.