"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dancing (Salsa, etc.)

GamePlan

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So how much of a turn on is a man who can dance to women really? Do they just rave about it or is it really a big sexual turn on for them? I mean as in salsa and that kind of stuff (which would probably be an easy activity to meet women in the first place) - I know a woman who can dance is a big turn on for me ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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everywomanshero

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I think dancing is one possible way to meet women and another way to spend some time with them. However, I don't think anyone would want to be known as disco inferno.... the guy that allways talks about dancing and tries real hard to impress women with how much of a dancer he is.
 

Lexington

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It's definitely a big turn on. I'm not sure about that whole grinding thing, but chicks LOVE dudes that can dance the tango, waltz, swing, salsa etc.

I was at a party a theme party a few weeks ago. They were playing a lot of tango at the beginning. I had a friend teach me the moves before the party. Well, sure enough, chicks were just lining up to dance. I was dancing with one girl and another girl would come up and tell her that it was her turn.

But yeah you don't want to appear so into dancing as to appear gay. It should be another one of the little tricks you have in your repetoire. I think it's most interesting when you spring it on her unexpectedly.
 

Serg897

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One of the things I do at school is Ballroom Dancing. Im on the team, I go to competitions...etc.

I'll tell you it definately helps raise the interest level of some girls, although its not automatic and it wont guarantee you success.

It is a great way to MEET women, however. Asking a girl to dance at a Salsa club/event is one of the EASIEST ways I know to meet them. And Salsa is probably one of my favorite dances ever.

However, I don't think anyone would want to be known as disco inferno.... the guy that allways talks about dancing and tries real hard to impress women with how much of a dancer he is.
This is also true. Dont be THAT guy.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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It's huge. It's one of the major ways that women see confidence in a guy. You don't even have to be great at it, just comfortable with yourself when your on the dancefloor. If you are good you can take charge by leading your partner on the dancefloor. Knowing how to dance isn't a detriment unless you're just an @ss who's showing off for your own benefit.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Viking25

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As a guy who's been dancing for many years I can tell you this: They will dance with you..but they will come back to bed with their bf who can't dance and fcuk him!..
Dancing is a good way to meet them, but not a huge advantage. I don't know one guy who gets laid because of dancing and I am around them a lot.
 

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Being great at dancing is like being good looking. It gives you more auditions but you'll still have to have other parts of your game sorted out if you want more.
 
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