"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dancing (Salsa, etc.)

GamePlan

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So how much of a turn on is a man who can dance to women really? Do they just rave about it or is it really a big sexual turn on for them? I mean as in salsa and that kind of stuff (which would probably be an easy activity to meet women in the first place) - I know a woman who can dance is a big turn on for me ;)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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everywomanshero

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I think dancing is one possible way to meet women and another way to spend some time with them. However, I don't think anyone would want to be known as disco inferno.... the guy that allways talks about dancing and tries real hard to impress women with how much of a dancer he is.
 

Lexington

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It's definitely a big turn on. I'm not sure about that whole grinding thing, but chicks LOVE dudes that can dance the tango, waltz, swing, salsa etc.

I was at a party a theme party a few weeks ago. They were playing a lot of tango at the beginning. I had a friend teach me the moves before the party. Well, sure enough, chicks were just lining up to dance. I was dancing with one girl and another girl would come up and tell her that it was her turn.

But yeah you don't want to appear so into dancing as to appear gay. It should be another one of the little tricks you have in your repetoire. I think it's most interesting when you spring it on her unexpectedly.
 

Serg897

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One of the things I do at school is Ballroom Dancing. Im on the team, I go to competitions...etc.

I'll tell you it definately helps raise the interest level of some girls, although its not automatic and it wont guarantee you success.

It is a great way to MEET women, however. Asking a girl to dance at a Salsa club/event is one of the EASIEST ways I know to meet them. And Salsa is probably one of my favorite dances ever.

However, I don't think anyone would want to be known as disco inferno.... the guy that allways talks about dancing and tries real hard to impress women with how much of a dancer he is.
This is also true. Dont be THAT guy.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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It's huge. It's one of the major ways that women see confidence in a guy. You don't even have to be great at it, just comfortable with yourself when your on the dancefloor. If you are good you can take charge by leading your partner on the dancefloor. Knowing how to dance isn't a detriment unless you're just an @ss who's showing off for your own benefit.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Viking25

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As a guy who's been dancing for many years I can tell you this: They will dance with you..but they will come back to bed with their bf who can't dance and fcuk him!..
Dancing is a good way to meet them, but not a huge advantage. I don't know one guy who gets laid because of dancing and I am around them a lot.
 

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Being great at dancing is like being good looking. It gives you more auditions but you'll still have to have other parts of your game sorted out if you want more.
 
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