how do u get girls in public to notice u so u make eye contact with them and then go from there. it always seems these logn eye contact stories u guys say never work, cuz they only look briefly in ur direction, even if they r interested. help me out here men.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Damn
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Why do you need eye contact?
Approach and open whoever you want to, whenver you want to.
Approach and open whoever you want to, whenver you want to.
It really is that simple.The only times I have ever experienced 'long' (ie longer than a glance, maybe say 3 or 4 seconds - which is longer than it sounds) ec with chicks is at nightclubs. In public, even ec glances seem difficult to come by.Raikojo17 said:
I've noticed that when you're walking through a public area, and a girl is walking towards you from the other way, and she's noticed you from further afar, there will usually be a brief moment when she'll look up and meet your eyes for a fleeting instant. If you're prepard, that would be a good time to pounce with a 'hi' (or whatever you want to say). That's my theory on it, anyway. I find this inordinately difficult, but I've come to the point where I feel I just must overcome it. I can understand people saying you don't need ec, just talk/approach/greet/whatever whenever you want, but at least in inital stages, ec would make that a lot easier.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.