how do u get girls in public to notice u so u make eye contact with them and then go from there. it always seems these logn eye contact stories u guys say never work, cuz they only look briefly in ur direction, even if they r interested. help me out here men.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Why do you need eye contact?
Approach and open whoever you want to, whenver you want to.
Approach and open whoever you want to, whenver you want to.
It really is that simple.The only times I have ever experienced 'long' (ie longer than a glance, maybe say 3 or 4 seconds - which is longer than it sounds) ec with chicks is at nightclubs. In public, even ec glances seem difficult to come by.Raikojo17 said:
I've noticed that when you're walking through a public area, and a girl is walking towards you from the other way, and she's noticed you from further afar, there will usually be a brief moment when she'll look up and meet your eyes for a fleeting instant. If you're prepard, that would be a good time to pounce with a 'hi' (or whatever you want to say). That's my theory on it, anyway. I find this inordinately difficult, but I've come to the point where I feel I just must overcome it. I can understand people saying you don't need ec, just talk/approach/greet/whatever whenever you want, but at least in inital stages, ec would make that a lot easier.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.