how do u get girls in public to notice u so u make eye contact with them and then go from there. it always seems these logn eye contact stories u guys say never work, cuz they only look briefly in ur direction, even if they r interested. help me out here men.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Damn
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Why do you need eye contact?
Approach and open whoever you want to, whenver you want to.
Approach and open whoever you want to, whenver you want to.
It really is that simple.The only times I have ever experienced 'long' (ie longer than a glance, maybe say 3 or 4 seconds - which is longer than it sounds) ec with chicks is at nightclubs. In public, even ec glances seem difficult to come by.Raikojo17 said:
I've noticed that when you're walking through a public area, and a girl is walking towards you from the other way, and she's noticed you from further afar, there will usually be a brief moment when she'll look up and meet your eyes for a fleeting instant. If you're prepard, that would be a good time to pounce with a 'hi' (or whatever you want to say). That's my theory on it, anyway. I find this inordinately difficult, but I've come to the point where I feel I just must overcome it. I can understand people saying you don't need ec, just talk/approach/greet/whatever whenever you want, but at least in inital stages, ec would make that a lot easier.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.