how do u get girls in public to notice u so u make eye contact with them and then go from there. it always seems these logn eye contact stories u guys say never work, cuz they only look briefly in ur direction, even if they r interested. help me out here men.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Damn
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Why do you need eye contact?
Approach and open whoever you want to, whenver you want to.
Approach and open whoever you want to, whenver you want to.
It really is that simple.The only times I have ever experienced 'long' (ie longer than a glance, maybe say 3 or 4 seconds - which is longer than it sounds) ec with chicks is at nightclubs. In public, even ec glances seem difficult to come by.Raikojo17 said:
I've noticed that when you're walking through a public area, and a girl is walking towards you from the other way, and she's noticed you from further afar, there will usually be a brief moment when she'll look up and meet your eyes for a fleeting instant. If you're prepard, that would be a good time to pounce with a 'hi' (or whatever you want to say). That's my theory on it, anyway. I find this inordinately difficult, but I've come to the point where I feel I just must overcome it. I can understand people saying you don't need ec, just talk/approach/greet/whatever whenever you want, but at least in inital stages, ec would make that a lot easier.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.