"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Damn... I was Fired

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What exactly did you do?
 

Stéphane

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Why didn't you explain to the owners that the supervisor let you go? Just don't place this job in your resumer, i've got fired before ( wal-mart obviously) it ain't that a big deal.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Effington

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I wouldn't recommend putting a job on your resume where you were fired, especially if you've been there less than a week. Pretend it never happened.
 

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yes... just leave it out

actually, on ur resume u should only put "highlights" of your career and recent stuff... plus 1 week? no need for putting it on a resume, dont put anything on your resume if u havent worked there for atleast 3 months
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Forms

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You're only 16. You don't even NEED to worry about a resume for a while. The type of jobs you apply for don't need a resume, they probably just need an application. i've left off jobs I only had for a week or so. No one will know.

If they fired you for something that stupid you don't want to work there anyway. If there's anything I would do different when it comes to high school jobs it's that I wouldn't have taken them so seriously. You probably live at home and don't pay any serious bills, so just have fun and make some throw around money.

I worked at a movie theatre in high school and it was all sorts of fun.
 

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If you only worked at a certain store for a few days and try to get a job and the same store just different location would they be able to find out that you worked there before?
 

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amnbyrd said:
If you only worked at a certain store for a few days and try to get a job and the same store just different location would they be able to find out that you worked there before?
Uh, yes. Quite easily. WTF?
 

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Actually, when I was in college I worked at one of the two decent restaurants in town (it was a farm town, so jobs were limited) and we got well over 100 applications per week. I overheard the managers mention how they weren't hiring, but some guy attached a really nice resume and he got hired anyway. By the way he was also the first guy they hired in the last 15 people. So even if it's not necessary, it's definitely impressive and can only help, as long as it's well done.

It was one of those restaurants that had 70 part-time server/students, so we pretty much had a revolving door, but the hiring manager at the time only hired hotties, I was shocked this one squeaked in, especially in a time when we weren't looking to hire.
 
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