"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Current girl upset about ex having still having photos up

Imdonswanson

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What do you do when your current GF gets pissed because your ex still has photos of you and her up from a long time ago?

I try to explain to my current girl that its no big deal girls just forget or don't bother but she doesn't want to hear it, I feel like telling her to gtfo it's not my problem.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My ex still has an entire FB page up with pictures that is using my last name. After our annulment in 2012 she was court ordered to cease and desist from keeping/using my last name but the FB page still exists.

My current GF hasn't made too big of a fuss about it.

What I want to know is, why do exes do this?
 

Imdonswanson

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No clue dude,

My ex was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder but I'm sure this is a universal thing with all exes. I'm more of a delete/ you don't exist until I'm over you.

Why do exes do that? The most common one I hear from girls is "we're just too lazy to delete!" Or "it was a part of my past, I can't just delete it:crazy: " Despite the fact that, at least in my case, my ex painted me to be a horrible demon yet she has 100+ photos some are more intimate than others.

Maybe keep the memory alive? A reminder of the past? No clue.
 

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Imdonswanson said:
What do you do when your current GF gets pissed because your ex still has photos of you and her up from a long time ago?

I try to explain to my current girl that its no big deal girls just forget or don't bother but she doesn't want to hear it, I feel like telling her to gtfo it's not my problem.
Get a new girlfriend, she sounds really insecure over old pictures that you can't do anything about. Maybe you picked up another BPD again with her extreme jealously and insecurities. Screen them out a lot more before entering a relationship. You already had it happen to you once, you'd think you know better the second time around.
 

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Stop involving Facebook in your life. Problem solved.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Say that's her problem not yours.
 

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Agreed. I'm thinking about dumping this girl. It's not my fault the photos are up and I have no intention on reaching out to my ex to take those down, seems petty.
 
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