Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Current girl upset about ex having still having photos up

Imdonswanson

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What do you do when your current GF gets pissed because your ex still has photos of you and her up from a long time ago?

I try to explain to my current girl that its no big deal girls just forget or don't bother but she doesn't want to hear it, I feel like telling her to gtfo it's not my problem.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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logicallefty

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My ex still has an entire FB page up with pictures that is using my last name. After our annulment in 2012 she was court ordered to cease and desist from keeping/using my last name but the FB page still exists.

My current GF hasn't made too big of a fuss about it.

What I want to know is, why do exes do this?
 

Imdonswanson

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No clue dude,

My ex was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder but I'm sure this is a universal thing with all exes. I'm more of a delete/ you don't exist until I'm over you.

Why do exes do that? The most common one I hear from girls is "we're just too lazy to delete!" Or "it was a part of my past, I can't just delete it:crazy: " Despite the fact that, at least in my case, my ex painted me to be a horrible demon yet she has 100+ photos some are more intimate than others.

Maybe keep the memory alive? A reminder of the past? No clue.
 

Leprechaun2013

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Imdonswanson said:
What do you do when your current GF gets pissed because your ex still has photos of you and her up from a long time ago?

I try to explain to my current girl that its no big deal girls just forget or don't bother but she doesn't want to hear it, I feel like telling her to gtfo it's not my problem.
Get a new girlfriend, she sounds really insecure over old pictures that you can't do anything about. Maybe you picked up another BPD again with her extreme jealously and insecurities. Screen them out a lot more before entering a relationship. You already had it happen to you once, you'd think you know better the second time around.
 

VladPatton

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Stop involving Facebook in your life. Problem solved.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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El Payaso

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Say that's her problem not yours.
 

Imdonswanson

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Agreed. I'm thinking about dumping this girl. It's not my fault the photos are up and I have no intention on reaching out to my ex to take those down, seems petty.
 
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