"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Rainman4707

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I feel like my GF wouldn't dump me unless it was for something very serious, like me cheating. I feel very secure. I really cannot see her dumping me. It's a great feeling. I think it's good to be in a LTR like this rather than being with someone your not quite sure about.

I still put effort in, but i'm also quite relaxed in the LTR - I think that's the way it should be. This is the only LTR I've been in that has lasted longer than 9 months so i'm not very experienced

I'm not feeling insecure. It's just good to feel like your GF loves you. Might sound a bit soppy, but so what...

You guys know any good books on LTR's?? I've read lots of articles about LTR's but would like to read a lot of books.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You feel secure in the relationship because she wants it to work and she will make it work for her social status until you change. Keep doing what you're doing and don't change. My cousin just broke up with a guy of 3 years, because she didn't have "the feels" for him anymore. Ergo he changed in some way from the beginning of the relationship to the end. Don't do thst
 

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I feel like my GF wouldn't dump me unless it was for something very serious, like me cheating. I feel very secure. I really cannot see her dumping me. It's a great feeling.
Yeah, I've got that happening in my life right now. We're almost at the 4 month mark, but she pursued me for 2 years.

Just curious, how old is she?
 

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Yeah, I've got that happening in my life right now. We're almost at the 4 month mark, but she pursued me for 2 years.

Just curious, how old is she?
32
 

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I feel like my GF wouldn't dump me unless it was for something very serious, like me cheating. I feel very secure. I really cannot see her dumping me. It's a great feeling. I think it's good to be in a LTR like this rather than being with someone your not quite sure about.

I still put effort in, but i'm also quite relaxed in the LTR - I think that's the way it should be. This is the only LTR I've been in that has lasted longer than 9 months so i'm not very experienced

I'm not feeling insecure. It's just good to feel like your GF loves you. Might sound a bit soppy, but so what...

You guys know any good books on LTR's?? I've read lots of articles about LTR's but would like to read a lot of books.
I just started reading 'The Rationale Male'. Check it out
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus is a great book. It's from the 90's and puts forth the radical, controversial idea that men and women are different.
 

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Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus is a great book. It's from the 90's and puts forth the radical, controversial idea that men and women are different.
Yeah, I've read similar books like, "Why women can't read maps & men don't listen" that book was also about the differences between men & women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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