"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Rainman4707

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I feel like my GF wouldn't dump me unless it was for something very serious, like me cheating. I feel very secure. I really cannot see her dumping me. It's a great feeling. I think it's good to be in a LTR like this rather than being with someone your not quite sure about.

I still put effort in, but i'm also quite relaxed in the LTR - I think that's the way it should be. This is the only LTR I've been in that has lasted longer than 9 months so i'm not very experienced

I'm not feeling insecure. It's just good to feel like your GF loves you. Might sound a bit soppy, but so what...

You guys know any good books on LTR's?? I've read lots of articles about LTR's but would like to read a lot of books.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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CMNILS87

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You feel secure in the relationship because she wants it to work and she will make it work for her social status until you change. Keep doing what you're doing and don't change. My cousin just broke up with a guy of 3 years, because she didn't have "the feels" for him anymore. Ergo he changed in some way from the beginning of the relationship to the end. Don't do thst
 

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I feel like my GF wouldn't dump me unless it was for something very serious, like me cheating. I feel very secure. I really cannot see her dumping me. It's a great feeling.
Yeah, I've got that happening in my life right now. We're almost at the 4 month mark, but she pursued me for 2 years.

Just curious, how old is she?
 

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Yeah, I've got that happening in my life right now. We're almost at the 4 month mark, but she pursued me for 2 years.

Just curious, how old is she?
32
 

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I feel like my GF wouldn't dump me unless it was for something very serious, like me cheating. I feel very secure. I really cannot see her dumping me. It's a great feeling. I think it's good to be in a LTR like this rather than being with someone your not quite sure about.

I still put effort in, but i'm also quite relaxed in the LTR - I think that's the way it should be. This is the only LTR I've been in that has lasted longer than 9 months so i'm not very experienced

I'm not feeling insecure. It's just good to feel like your GF loves you. Might sound a bit soppy, but so what...

You guys know any good books on LTR's?? I've read lots of articles about LTR's but would like to read a lot of books.
I just started reading 'The Rationale Male'. Check it out
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus is a great book. It's from the 90's and puts forth the radical, controversial idea that men and women are different.
 

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Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus is a great book. It's from the 90's and puts forth the radical, controversial idea that men and women are different.
Yeah, I've read similar books like, "Why women can't read maps & men don't listen" that book was also about the differences between men & women.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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