"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Rainman4707

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I feel like my GF wouldn't dump me unless it was for something very serious, like me cheating. I feel very secure. I really cannot see her dumping me. It's a great feeling. I think it's good to be in a LTR like this rather than being with someone your not quite sure about.

I still put effort in, but i'm also quite relaxed in the LTR - I think that's the way it should be. This is the only LTR I've been in that has lasted longer than 9 months so i'm not very experienced

I'm not feeling insecure. It's just good to feel like your GF loves you. Might sound a bit soppy, but so what...

You guys know any good books on LTR's?? I've read lots of articles about LTR's but would like to read a lot of books.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You feel secure in the relationship because she wants it to work and she will make it work for her social status until you change. Keep doing what you're doing and don't change. My cousin just broke up with a guy of 3 years, because she didn't have "the feels" for him anymore. Ergo he changed in some way from the beginning of the relationship to the end. Don't do thst
 

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I feel like my GF wouldn't dump me unless it was for something very serious, like me cheating. I feel very secure. I really cannot see her dumping me. It's a great feeling.
Yeah, I've got that happening in my life right now. We're almost at the 4 month mark, but she pursued me for 2 years.

Just curious, how old is she?
 

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Yeah, I've got that happening in my life right now. We're almost at the 4 month mark, but she pursued me for 2 years.

Just curious, how old is she?
32
 

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I feel like my GF wouldn't dump me unless it was for something very serious, like me cheating. I feel very secure. I really cannot see her dumping me. It's a great feeling. I think it's good to be in a LTR like this rather than being with someone your not quite sure about.

I still put effort in, but i'm also quite relaxed in the LTR - I think that's the way it should be. This is the only LTR I've been in that has lasted longer than 9 months so i'm not very experienced

I'm not feeling insecure. It's just good to feel like your GF loves you. Might sound a bit soppy, but so what...

You guys know any good books on LTR's?? I've read lots of articles about LTR's but would like to read a lot of books.
I just started reading 'The Rationale Male'. Check it out
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus is a great book. It's from the 90's and puts forth the radical, controversial idea that men and women are different.
 

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Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus is a great book. It's from the 90's and puts forth the radical, controversial idea that men and women are different.
Yeah, I've read similar books like, "Why women can't read maps & men don't listen" that book was also about the differences between men & women.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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