"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Crossing the line of law
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I refuse to do anything illegal in such cases, and I also refuse to date anyone really young and living at home. Actually now that I think about it I've not dated a girl who was currently living with her parents since it was the 1980's. The potential for unwanted complications seems too high.
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Yet another nonsensical part of society.
Take her to MA and fvck her.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
bukowski_merit
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but, if you started a rel with this girl and fell for her - you'd have to go through HELL trying to keep and keep up with this girl as the girl matured in the 17-22 age range... there's so many phases you'll get hit with during that...
not worth it in the little way...
most 17 yo's are far from virgins too... so it's not like the sex will be any better than if you went with a 25 year old... in fact - smart money is on it being better with than older woman...
bigjohnson
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Bzzzzzt. Wrong. In my experience this is just not true unless the guy is inexperienced and needs some Mrs. Robinson style help.bukowski_merit said:..... - smart money is on it being better with than older woman...
bukowski_merit
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nonsense... and i'm not talking about old like that... i'm talking - older than her teens...bigjohnson said:Bzzzzzt. Wrong. In my experience this is just not true unless the guy is inexperienced and needs some Mrs. Robinson style help.
most girls i mess with are in the 22-28 range... and i can tell you they are much more in touch with their abilities in bed (such as their ability to have an orgasm). if you sit down and talk to them about sex... many will say "i started having sex when i was around [somewhere in the 13-16 range]." and if you probe further most of them will tell you something like "i didn't really learn how to really enjoy myself and gain pleasure from sex until i was [somewhere in the 21-25 range]."
i get off on another womans pleasure... the last thing i wanna do is stick my d!ck in some immature girl who's going to "act out" how she thinks sex should be...
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So you're a lesbian?bukowski_merit said:i get off on another womans pleasure...
The reason 18 yo girls have trouble enjoying it is that they are with 18 yo boys, it has nothing to do with them. If they just do as I ask they will have a great time.bukowski_merit said:.... some immature girl who's going to "act out" how she thinks ....
bukowski_merit
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Yes i'm a motha****in lesbian!bigjohnson said:So you're a lesbian?
I think most 18yo woman date and **** much older men... I still don't want to tell a girl what to do to get off and enjoy herself... she needs to know that going into it... i have a dominant sexual personality, but that doesn't mean i want to be a teacher...bigjohnson said:The reason 18 yo girls have trouble enjoying it is that they are with 18 yo boys, it has nothing to do with them. If they just do as I ask they will have a great time.
this guy is also talking about relationships... not sex... and a (possibly illegal) 17 year old, not an 18 year old.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.