"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Couple questions of mine.
- Thread starter MrConfidence
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your gonna have to turn off your brain as you do this sh!t and just try to get some friends.. this is one of those things that people can't or don't give enough of a sh!t to do anything for you.
Your gonna have to turn off your brain and simply just talk to people, people are gonna think your weird (you are) but steam past it man. Before you know it you'll have some friends. There is no clear answer, but it's still easy once you get it. Just don't think. Your not stupid, just you have no balls. lol.. through all this stuff your gonna have to go through you'll get some social skills and then later laugh at your post.
Something you come to realize is that people are just people, there is no socially flawless guy (the more some guy thinks he is, the less he probally is) out there, so relax and just talk.
I guess they care but voice tone is ultimately a small detail. More important things to worry about
Yeah you need friends. Even one or two good buddies may be all you need. Don't fool yourself and think it's cool to be a lonewolf. Figure out what you're into and hang out with people who are into it too. It's easy to talk when you both want to discuss the same thing.
Go to homecoming anyways. Even if it sucks at least you went. Maybe it'll be fun.
Sounds like you're just a bit rusty with people in general. Get better with them and women won't be as mysterious.
MrConfidence
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How so? You know what I'm into MUSIC, COMPUTERS, VIDEO GAMES, and you know maybe there are people in my school who also like that stuff, but I have no way of knowing of that. I like to talk about stuff I KNOW. Hell even band people don't discuss music that much. There's only one guy that I know, who's really into music that I talk to from time to time(Guess you could consider us friends), and even we don't talk that much.Nighthawk said:Having no friends is weird.
Mr_rogers
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Being into music, computers and video games are all well and fine, but I still stand by my opinion that you need to expand your horizons. Computers and video games are practically the same thing anyway... and no, don't lecture me about the difference, as I used to be big into gaming.MrConfidence said:How so? You know what I'm into MUSIC, COMPUTERS, VIDEO GAMES, and you know maybe there are people in my school who also like that stuff, but I have no way of knowing of that. I like to talk about stuff I KNOW. Hell even band people don't discuss music that much. There's only one guy that I know, who's really into music that I talk to from time to time(Guess you could consider us friends), and even we don't talk that much.
Just to let you know, it really is weird to have no friends. I can't imagine that. I fail to see how anyone could have no friends unless they go around purposely pissing people off.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Nope, I just don't have any friends. And music IS a big part of my life dude, I play 4 instruments, I'm in marching band, and I'm pretty confident I have what it takes to make jazz band this year. I'm also in wrestling, and track. So how can I expand my horizons if I'm already doing the stuff I like to do? Music, computer-related things, and sports take up a lot of my time.Mr_rogers said:Being into music, computers and video games are all well and fine, but I still stand by my opinion that you need to expand your horizons. Computers and video games are practically the same thing anyway... and no, don't lecture me about the difference, as I used to be big into gaming.
Just to let you know, it really is weird to have no friends. I can't imagine that. I fail to see how anyone could have no friends unless they go around purposely pissing people off.
Mr_rogers
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Okay, I don't really understand what you meant by that first sentence, there. I can see your point about having little time with wrestling, and music, though I'm sure you have more than you make it sound.MrConfidence said:Nope, I just don't have any friends. And music IS a big part of my life dude, I play 4 instruments, I'm in marching band, and I'm pretty confident I have what it takes to make jazz band this year. I'm also in wrestling, and track. So how can I expand my horizons if I'm already doing the stuff I like to do? Music, computer-related things, and sports take up a lot of my time.