"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Could I have done anything different/better?

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Hey all,

learning to build my confidence and approach more. I can hold a decent conversation so long as the girl is interesting and offers enough 'hooks' to keep the momentum going.

Anyway, this morning I got off the train and saw this average looking girl just ahead of me. As I came in line with her the conversation went like this

Me: How's it going?
Her: good (she gave me a slight annoyed look)
Me: Big night? (It was about 8 in the morning so thought she might have been getting the train back from a big night out
Her: not really (same look)

After this I just ignored her and walked ahead. She obviously wasn't interested. So, could I have done anything different/better?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=140339

Don't post the same thing twice to get a reply. That's annoying. It's late on a Friday night. You probably won't get too many replies. I've already taken one of my girls home because I wanted to spend some damn time alone. Then I get on here and give you a little help without any appreciation, and you become impatient.
 

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your FR lasted about 2 secs past the opener. then you prematurely ejected yourself because you overanalyzed her body language

don't worry about this one. just keep approaching, keep the momentum going
 

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Sorry tick37, forgot I'd already posted this haha. Just tired, but thanks heaps for your original response. I need to be able to be more 'to the point' like that.
 

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Too many beers, eh?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Nah its actually been a quiet weekend, used to being out on the town haha but mates pulled out of plans so ended up bored as. Shoulda gone out by myself and checked out a few bars.
 
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