Convincing your girlfriend to do anal

[The Juan and only]

Now, she's never tried it, but insists she finds it disgusting. How can I change her opinion guys? any ideas?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

When they become confortable enough with you, they are more open to experiment almost anything. How long have you been bangin' her for?

 

[The Juan and only]

2 months. She's ok with urine (she's happy for me to pee in front of her), snot (I had a cold and she licked my nose for a joke), etc and seems fairly comfortable with me in general -- she just has a hang up with anal it seems.

Emotional blackmail over an extended period might get me there, but that's neither healthy nor smooth. Just wondered if you guys had anything to add on the matter.


(she was a virgin btw)


I have edited this post to make it more clear for the fukwads below

 

[speakeasy]

Snot? I'm probably going to regret asking but what role does snot play in sex?

And she's right, anal is disgusting, and unhealthy for the receiver as she can get a prolapsed rectum after years of anal penetration. Som of these porn stars that do a lot of anal will probably be wearing diapers by age 45. Besides, sh*t comes out of there, why do want your d*ck in that? As far as I'm concerned, the anus is a one-way only orifice.

 

[The Juan and only]

None, but i had a cold one day and got it all over her, she seemed fine. She even licked my nose for a joke (an indicator that she's comfortable with me in my book).


Why I want it is none of your concern, I just asked if you could help. Desire for anal sex is common.

 

[speakeasy]

Some people just can't stand the idea of having their anus penetrated. I mean think about how we feel if the doctor has to examine our prostate, and that's just a finger, way smaller than the girth of a penis, yet that alone is enough to make us hit the ceiling. A **** in the ass must hurt way more than a finger from from your doc. So just accept that some people aren't down with that.

Oh and not that it's my cup of tea, but I've heard of some guys slowly introducing their girl to anal by using their tongue. Absolutety disgusting in my opinion, but I may not be as kinky as some.

 

[The Juan and only]

I can understand that, but how can she really know until she's tried it. I'm just thinking that she's maybe having other concerns I can address, and wouldn't in fact mind anal were she to give it a go.

So, you say I should give up on this idea, and accept that the girl just doesn't want anal?

 

[speakeasy]

Maybe you can ask her if she'd like one lubed finger and see what she thinks of that. Try your pinky finger since it's the smallest. If she won't accept even that, then you probably have little chance of anal sex. I knew of a girl that didn't particularly enjoy anal sex, but loved her boyfriend so much that she enjoyed the pleasure he got out of it.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

You can't make her do something she does not want to do. When she is more confortable and or turned on enough she may want to try it. You will need lots of lube. She will need to be very relaxed cause it will cause her pain if she is not. If you do, do it. Have her bend over and get behinde her. She should back her a$$ into your c@ck so she can feel how far your man hood will go in for pleasure and how fast.

 

[Baruch]

Now how to convince your gf to drink your piss is a different story.....

Seriously, I dunno, just stick it in, say you missed?

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Now how to convince your gf to drink your piss is a different story.....

Seriously, I dunno, just stick it in, say you missed?

I did that once on accident. My girlfriend freaked out and was in alot of pain.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I can understand that, but how can she really know until she's tried it. I'm just thinking that she's maybe having other concerns I can address, and wouldn't in fact mind anal were she to give it a go.

So, you say I should give up on this idea, and accept that the girl just doesn't want anal?

Guy, think about the times gay guys say the same thing to straight guys. "You don't know what you're missing", "How can you really know until you've tried it?". If she's not into it, you must respect that.

If/when she's comfortable enough, she will bring it up. It has to come as if it is her idea, not yours.

 

[The Juan and only]

Thank you for your input everyone. Some very sensible points of view from you guys.

 

[ducaro]

2 months. She's ok with urine, snot, etc and seems fairly comfortable with me in general

(she was a virgin btw)

disgusting! what **** are you guys into???

 

[speakeasy]

I did that once on accident. My girlfriend freaked out and was in alot of pain.

If it went in by accident, it must have been pretty loose to begin with. You sure she hadn't done anal before?

 

[kev me723]

Well I don't know if it helps her decision or not, but I have actually read that some woman can climax in like 5 seconds from ****oral stimulation combined with anal. I guess most women that try it once can't get enough of it after that.

If all else fails, just trick her and pretend you're doing it doggy style, then just stick it in door number 2!

p.s. that last part was not serious at all. please, nobody do that.

 

[Helter Skelter]

She's ok with urine

Urine???
What the hell do you do with urine.
That's kind of gross IMO.

 

[The Juan and only]

I mean she's happy for me to pee in front of her. JESUS, I give a few examples of things that I think implies she's comfortable, and you turn them all sexual.

So far we've got idiots who've posted here just to say they don't agree with my preferences, and thanks for that btw, but I couldn't care less. As well as several posts claiming I'm "sick" purely because they've misinterpreted what i meant.

A guy asks for help, and the good replies get buried by a bunch of fukwit retards who just wanna post a wisecrack . Hello sosuave.

 

[backbreaker]

first, no woman (taht I know of) on earth will just agree to do anal sex... you have to be in the ACT of sex, then spring it on em out of the blue... get in the head of passion.

on the other hand.. very few if any women will, if you are laying it down like you are supposed to, is going to stop in the heat of the moment... you usually don't even have to ask, just tell her ass to bend over. if you do'nt make it a big deal 9 out of 10 times they won't either

 

[Dongfu]

You have to make the trust sale first. If she trusts how you handle her pssy, then she is more likely to TRUST your other suggestions. Tell her "I will go really slowly, and if it feels uncomfortable, I'll stop. Trust me." ANd definately be stimulating her **** at the same time. It will relax and open her up.