"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Converting LinkedIn Connections into Dates

GreenlandShark

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Hi Don Juans,

In last few months, I have observed many career oriented women ( age around 23-27) are interested in my career journey (my age 29) and in knowing how I have passed some of the difficult certification exams in last few years and moved ahead in my industry ( Investment Management)

My question is - how can I convert such 'innocent' career related enquiries through LinkedIn into proper dates? In past few instances, once they reached out to me via LinkedIn chat (they initiated first.. nothing from my end.. not even sending them the connection request first hand), I tried moving the conversation directly on the WhatsApp by providing my number and asking them to check with me on WhatsApp for for further discussions but it did not gain any traction.

I know that I am at the driver`s seat it and I have the upper hand but still not able to figure out the smoothest way.. Please note that I don`t have a large sample size yet (just 3-4 instances in past 2-3 months) to fine tune my approach and hence wondering if you can provide some valid action points on Do`s and Don`ts

Thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Billtx49

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Since Linkedin is all about careers, I think the odds of converting a contact there to personal access are not very good. They only contact you to network and learn from you to advance their own career …
 

FlexpertHamilton

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I wouldn't bother, Linkedin attracts the most narcisstic crowd of people out of any social media platform. Furthermore...career women are just awful, I would avoid them like the plague.
 

SW15

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Many men are sending DMs on LinkedIn as an attempt to get dates and/or get laid.

Doing that is generally a waste of time. The Instagram DMs are way better for getting laid than LinkedIn.

It's difficult to get women out of career mode. This is also why in-person business networking events are horrible for trying to get dates.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Bling

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I’ve seen multiple girls put a guy on blast on LinkedIn claiming LinkedIn is a professional setting and have thousands of likes. Especially some Mexican guy and girl comes to mind; dudes got career went down the tube- in LatAm no less where we’re way more strict than they are. If you want to risk being the next guy, and **** with how you get money, go for it.

I think BadBoy89 response is probably the most innocuous safe way to do it, if you’re going to do it.
 

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Sounds promising... position yourself as that "weirdo" who tries to pick up women when they are trying to network professionally with you and make a bad name for yourself while doing it.

Great career move.
 

bmp2cpm

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Back in the early days of social media, you could see EVERYONE who looked at your LinkedIn account.

Once, I saw this younger attractive girl who I barely remembered from a previous job had checked out my LinkedIn account. So I asked her out to dinner for “networking” purposes.

We hit it off pretty good as friends and went out a few times a month. She was someone fun to hang out with.

Then one day, she invited me to her party. At the party, her sister took one look at me and it was game over for both of us. Been married for 6 years now.

So, always possible to meet someone either directly or indirectly through LinkedIn.

Best strategy would be to pay LinkedIn to see who is checking you out and then reach out to that person.

Cold calling is less likely to work and might give you a bad reputation.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Murk

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I spend too much per month on LinkedIn licenses, inmails and job ads to risk that. You’re looking at 800 dollars a month for the bare minimum 1 license and 2/3 jobs slots. It never even crossed my mind to hunt women on LinkedIn, what an existence.
 
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