"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Converting LinkedIn Connections into Dates

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Hi Don Juans,

In last few months, I have observed many career oriented women ( age around 23-27) are interested in my career journey (my age 29) and in knowing how I have passed some of the difficult certification exams in last few years and moved ahead in my industry ( Investment Management)

My question is - how can I convert such 'innocent' career related enquiries through LinkedIn into proper dates? In past few instances, once they reached out to me via LinkedIn chat (they initiated first.. nothing from my end.. not even sending them the connection request first hand), I tried moving the conversation directly on the WhatsApp by providing my number and asking them to check with me on WhatsApp for for further discussions but it did not gain any traction.

I know that I am at the driver`s seat it and I have the upper hand but still not able to figure out the smoothest way.. Please note that I don`t have a large sample size yet (just 3-4 instances in past 2-3 months) to fine tune my approach and hence wondering if you can provide some valid action points on Do`s and Don`ts

Thanks
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Since Linkedin is all about careers, I think the odds of converting a contact there to personal access are not very good. They only contact you to network and learn from you to advance their own career …
 
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I wouldn't bother, Linkedin attracts the most narcisstic crowd of people out of any social media platform. Furthermore...career women are just awful, I would avoid them like the plague.
 
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Many men are sending DMs on LinkedIn as an attempt to get dates and/or get laid.

Doing that is generally a waste of time. The Instagram DMs are way better for getting laid than LinkedIn.

It's difficult to get women out of career mode. This is also why in-person business networking events are horrible for trying to get dates.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I’ve seen multiple girls put a guy on blast on LinkedIn claiming LinkedIn is a professional setting and have thousands of likes. Especially some Mexican guy and girl comes to mind; dudes got career went down the tube- in LatAm no less where we’re way more strict than they are. If you want to risk being the next guy, and **** with how you get money, go for it.

I think BadBoy89 response is probably the most innocuous safe way to do it, if you’re going to do it.
 
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Sounds promising... position yourself as that "weirdo" who tries to pick up women when they are trying to network professionally with you and make a bad name for yourself while doing it.

Great career move.
 
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Back in the early days of social media, you could see EVERYONE who looked at your LinkedIn account.

Once, I saw this younger attractive girl who I barely remembered from a previous job had checked out my LinkedIn account. So I asked her out to dinner for “networking” purposes.

We hit it off pretty good as friends and went out a few times a month. She was someone fun to hang out with.

Then one day, she invited me to her party. At the party, her sister took one look at me and it was game over for both of us. Been married for 6 years now.

So, always possible to meet someone either directly or indirectly through LinkedIn.

Best strategy would be to pay LinkedIn to see who is checking you out and then reach out to that person.

Cold calling is less likely to work and might give you a bad reputation.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I spend too much per month on LinkedIn licenses, inmails and job ads to risk that. You’re looking at 800 dollars a month for the bare minimum 1 license and 2/3 jobs slots. It never even crossed my mind to hunt women on LinkedIn, what an existence.
 
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