"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Controlling Sh!t Tests?

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I’m new to all this so I’m soaking everything in still. I’ve always noticed patterns in girls but never had concrete definitions or theories like here. So I’ve had my own methods that work but you guys put them into words. I’m having trouble practically handling sh!t tests.

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Girl that I gauged as interested from tinder asked why I’m single. I thought the best response is to control the convo and skim her question with a question. “How would my answer contribute to you?” Tried to hit the middle ground of vague but not too vague. How to I answer a question like that?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"Just haven't found the right match yet. Could that be you? ;p LOL." Let's get a drink to chat more IRL.
 
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"I'm just not looking for a relationship right now"

Sounds like a dumb move but I've seen it work quite powerfully. Gives them a challenge etc
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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well, tell them that you’ve been busy working on your career, professional life, traveling and having fun. Women want someone who can talk and keep things interesting.
 
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Tinder?

I'm not inclined to give out personal information to trash.

Let her qualify herself, as to WHY she's NOT trash.
 
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I say arrogant stuff like, Im single because most women can't handle me

Or... idk a lot of women are scared of me, they think I'm a player
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RickTheToad said:
Maybe you come on too strong. Need to come off chill and relaxed.
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Nah it makes them smile lol. I don't say it in an arrogant way. I just describe it as an arrogant or confidence thing... and obviously it's not one size fits all, its just one approach for certain women. I can play it either way, and I have a feel of when to do which
 
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Nah it makes them smile lol. I don't say it in an arrogant way. I just describe it as an arrogant or confidence thing... and obviously it's not one size fits all, its just one approach for certain women. I can play it either way, and I have a feel of when to do which
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Like a Bo$$
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I just tell them being single keeps me out of trouble.
 
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