She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Become a...vagrant :crackup:vagrant said:I'm sure I don't need to describe. How do you deal with them when you still can't live on your own!~
I'm 21.warrior1 said:how old are u man?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
i was gonna say this, but damage already did.DJDamage said:NewsFlash: After the age of 18, they can rightfuly kick you out of the house.
As long as you are living under their roof and not paying rent for it, then you are their b1tch. If you don't like it then start working on an exit strategy so you can find the means of living on your own.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why don't you save that money and live in the dorms?vagrant said:Let me tell you my story so you guys can tell me. I have a girl in ny that I want to visit. I live in ca. My mom is telling me not to go. I'm paying for everything. Ticket, etc. I pay for my college. Money wise I don't give them trouble at all. My mom thinks I'm crazy about the girl. I just want to go before school starts this august. I work full time so it's once in every six months thing to have 7 days off. Unfortunately I didn't listen to her. Bought a ticket already and I'll be out for a week. I'm a good kid but it's too much I think!~