Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Become a...vagrant :crackup:vagrant said:I'm sure I don't need to describe. How do you deal with them when you still can't live on your own!~
I'm 21.warrior1 said:how old are u man?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
i was gonna say this, but damage already did.DJDamage said:NewsFlash: After the age of 18, they can rightfuly kick you out of the house.
As long as you are living under their roof and not paying rent for it, then you are their b1tch. If you don't like it then start working on an exit strategy so you can find the means of living on your own.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Why don't you save that money and live in the dorms?vagrant said:Let me tell you my story so you guys can tell me. I have a girl in ny that I want to visit. I live in ca. My mom is telling me not to go. I'm paying for everything. Ticket, etc. I pay for my college. Money wise I don't give them trouble at all. My mom thinks I'm crazy about the girl. I just want to go before school starts this august. I work full time so it's once in every six months thing to have 7 days off. Unfortunately I didn't listen to her. Bought a ticket already and I'll be out for a week. I'm a good kid but it's too much I think!~