"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mauser96 said:
I know alot of posters claim a bpd ex.

I know my ex has issues, most of them fit bpd
you're claiming too, you don't know for sure either.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mauser96 said:
So what? If she fits most of the profile, that is good enough for me.

BPD? Not BPD? I don't care. She was toxic, and I am glad to be rid of her.
you make claims that you aren't sure of, good job!



Mauser96 said:
By the way asa-don,

Can you please explain to me why your opinion on BPD means more than the men who have dated one?
i deal with facts, not assuming things that might not be. you don't care to know if it's true, you just look for 1 or 2 things to fit your claim.
 

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Mauser96 said:
By the way asa-don,

Can you please explain to me why your opinion on BPD means more than the men who have dated one?
Actually I find it rather funny. Living with one for years, spending hundreds(!) of hours reading support forums, books, medicals papers, talking with qualified therapist and going through C-PTSD-like syndroms. After all of that, a guy with the wikipedia definition and try to educate you.
 
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only betas get suckered into bpd women.

Pasternak said:
Actually I find it rather funny. Living with one for years, spending hundreds(!) of hours reading support forums, books, medicals papers, talking with qualified therapist and going through C-PTSD-like syndroms. After all of that, a guy with the wikipedia definition and try to educate you.
you're the one dumb enough to go through all that. other people read something off a website and claim what they want it to be.


Mauser96 said:
Really? Is that what I do? How do you know this?

You have no facts. You are assuming.


http://www.sharischreiber.com/articles.html


Click the above link and get an education.

Or, continue to argue and make a fool of yourself.

yes, that is what you do because you admitted that's what you do. you don't care as long as that's what you want it to be. you read a website, so what? you can read a website about cancer and you might not even have it until you get it checked out. you're only assuming because you read a website that fits "most of the profile", you claim bpd but you don't actually know. you're just assuming she has bpd.

Mauser96 said:
So what? If she fits most of the profile, that is good enough for me.

BPD? Not BPD? I don't care..
you don't care as long as that's what you want it to be.
 

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Contact Bpd ex
I didnt reply after

A day later she messages '' hey What happened? Why did you randomly contact me and then leave me..



Lol its gonna be a fun one .. will keep updating
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This Chick has not change one bit

She has a bf of almost 2 years

Shes paying my traveling ticket to go see her
She also booked a hotel were we could stay at
For 3 days its a Nice place in san diego beach
Lol wtf
 

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Mauser96 said:
Tread carefully.

Personally, I would stay as far away from this scenario as possible.

Maybe she thinks it would be funny to have you show up to the hotel, start making out with you, and then have her boyfriend in on the plan. He walks into the room with a baseball bat, and proceeds to pound you while she giggles in the background, saying "I told you I would get you back"

Mine was capable of this.
Hell Yeah bro ill be carefull
 

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Jair213 said:
This Chick has not change one bit

She has a bf of almost 2 years

Shes paying my traveling ticket to go see her
She also booked a hotel were we could stay at
For 3 days its a Nice place in san diego beach
Lol wtf
My friend broke up with his BPD when she was acting crazy. She came over to his place just to "apologize" for everything. She started a fight, got a knife and stabbed him. I wouldn't be alone with her where she can accuse you of doing anything. Who are people going to believe? You or her? BPD's are great actors. The chick who stabbed my friend fooled her friends and all of us thinking she was a great person. My words of advice: Don't do it.
 
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