I just finished my freshman year of college and am back home. I was thinking about contacting this one girl I knew from high school (casual friends from 8th gade-high school)..We've talked on the phone/texted before but not since like last August, so I'm not sure if she'll have me saved still in her phone...How should I go about contacting her again. (text/call? email?) Thanks
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Contacting a girl from your past
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Dont. Move on.
alright...any ideas on what to initially text her?sagexx said:friend and hang out just regularly text her, anything else i wouldnt recommend
Romjuan
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ive done this many times and had great success. i usually do the text thing and just say "hey, its xxxx, you have anything goin on tonite? im back in town." bottom line, it really doesnt matter what you say,if their available and they had/have interst in you your golden.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
+1 on on this.Romjuan said:ive done this many times and had great success. i usually do the text thing and just say "hey, its xxxx, you have anything goin on tonite? im back in town." bottom line, it really doesnt matter what you say,if their available and they had/have interst in you your golden.
I have a friend that does this all the time, he travels from New York to Oregon to California several times a year. Always picking up new numbers and contacting old plates. She could be a fling you can visit several times a year since it's your hometown. No strings attached if you do it right.
Thanks....This is so simple yet so true and it really makes sense to contact her. Thanks!Captain said:Text or call her.
You contact her. Best case = sex. Worst case = no reply.
You don't contact her = no reply = 0% chance of sex.