I just finished my freshman year of college and am back home. I was thinking about contacting this one girl I knew from high school (casual friends from 8th gade-high school)..We've talked on the phone/texted before but not since like last August, so I'm not sure if she'll have me saved still in her phone...How should I go about contacting her again. (text/call? email?) Thanks
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Contacting a girl from your past
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Dont. Move on.
alright...any ideas on what to initially text her?sagexx said:friend and hang out just regularly text her, anything else i wouldnt recommend
Romjuan
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ive done this many times and had great success. i usually do the text thing and just say "hey, its xxxx, you have anything goin on tonite? im back in town." bottom line, it really doesnt matter what you say,if their available and they had/have interst in you your golden.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
+1 on on this.Romjuan said:ive done this many times and had great success. i usually do the text thing and just say "hey, its xxxx, you have anything goin on tonite? im back in town." bottom line, it really doesnt matter what you say,if their available and they had/have interst in you your golden.
I have a friend that does this all the time, he travels from New York to Oregon to California several times a year. Always picking up new numbers and contacting old plates. She could be a fling you can visit several times a year since it's your hometown. No strings attached if you do it right.
Thanks....This is so simple yet so true and it really makes sense to contact her. Thanks!Captain said:Text or call her.
You contact her. Best case = sex. Worst case = no reply.
You don't contact her = no reply = 0% chance of sex.