"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hi there. Ive had numerous accounts on here, but keep forgetting login details etc.

Anyway, Im confused about what happened in this situation, and was wondering if anyone could shine some light. I will try to keep this brief.


Introduced to a girl by a friend. We started hitting off with each other, meeting up. I kept texts and things to a minimum, ensured we saw each other in person more than "false communication".
On numerous occassions she displayed unwanted behaviour or views, so I took a step back and told her I was unhappy etc. She would eventually apologise and change somewhat.
Sex never happened, and if we were ever out with friends (large group of her friends, large group of mine etc) she would show NO affection towards me whatsoever. So again, id tell her my views opinions on her actions etc.

To cut the story short, we stopped seeing each other unofficially. Communication ceased etc. Then out of the blue she was suddenly in a relationship with another man. To this day she remains adamant that she never "cheated", but that we simply fell apart, and that she and this new man simply grew closer.

Ive accepted this and moved, getting back into the game. But she occassionally messages me over facebook, saying things like

"Im sorry this happened. It was selfish of me."
"Ill ALWAYS have a soft spot for you"
I reply to the messages, but simply as a friend.

But Im baffled as to why this situation even occurred. She described me as the "Most amazing person shes ever met" and still does in some cases. So what went wrong?

Im not asking for views and opinions in the hope of "Winning her back" as such. That part of my life is done.. over with. Moved on.
But it sometimes bugs me. I cant see anything wrong with the way I acted, so the only reasoning I can see is a character flaw on her behalf?

What are your views guys??
 

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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It seems women like to f**k with our mind and emotions.
 

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Could it not also be an indicator and first hand experience that DJ techniques dont necesarilly work on ALL women?

From what I can gather from recent conversation with my ex, shes going out every day somewhere "Nice".. a waterfall or somewhere for example. And it also sounds like her new BF might be somewhat of an AFC. Very Cuddly with her, talks to her 24/7 etc
 

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TypeR said:
But Im baffled as to why this situation even occurred. She described me as the "Most amazing person shes ever met" and still does in some cases. So what went wrong?
You can't judge a woman by her words. Never. That's just a rule to live by.

[QUOTE}I cant see anything wrong with the way I acted, so the only reasoning I can see is a character flaw on her behalf?[/QUOTE]

Most likely, yeah. But who knows. You'd have an easier time drinking the ocean than figuring out what goes through a girl's mind.

TypeR said:
Could it not also be an indicator and first hand experience that DJ techniques dont necesarilly work on ALL women?
Well you're dealing with humans. It's never as simple as 2+2=4. There are always variables.

From what I can gather from recent conversation with my ex, shes going out every day somewhere "Nice".. a waterfall or somewhere for example. And it also sounds like her new BF might be somewhat of an AFC. Very Cuddly with her, talks to her 24/7 etc
Maybe he's an AFC. Maybe she's using him. Who the hell knows. Whatever.
 

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Thats the sort of answer I was after.

And the best bit about it?


The "Whatever"
Ill just carry on with my game. Thanks dude :)
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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