Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Hi there. Ive had numerous accounts on here, but keep forgetting login details etc.

Anyway, Im confused about what happened in this situation, and was wondering if anyone could shine some light. I will try to keep this brief.


Introduced to a girl by a friend. We started hitting off with each other, meeting up. I kept texts and things to a minimum, ensured we saw each other in person more than "false communication".
On numerous occassions she displayed unwanted behaviour or views, so I took a step back and told her I was unhappy etc. She would eventually apologise and change somewhat.
Sex never happened, and if we were ever out with friends (large group of her friends, large group of mine etc) she would show NO affection towards me whatsoever. So again, id tell her my views opinions on her actions etc.

To cut the story short, we stopped seeing each other unofficially. Communication ceased etc. Then out of the blue she was suddenly in a relationship with another man. To this day she remains adamant that she never "cheated", but that we simply fell apart, and that she and this new man simply grew closer.

Ive accepted this and moved, getting back into the game. But she occassionally messages me over facebook, saying things like

"Im sorry this happened. It was selfish of me."
"Ill ALWAYS have a soft spot for you"
I reply to the messages, but simply as a friend.

But Im baffled as to why this situation even occurred. She described me as the "Most amazing person shes ever met" and still does in some cases. So what went wrong?

Im not asking for views and opinions in the hope of "Winning her back" as such. That part of my life is done.. over with. Moved on.
But it sometimes bugs me. I cant see anything wrong with the way I acted, so the only reasoning I can see is a character flaw on her behalf?

What are your views guys??
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It seems women like to f**k with our mind and emotions.
 

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Could it not also be an indicator and first hand experience that DJ techniques dont necesarilly work on ALL women?

From what I can gather from recent conversation with my ex, shes going out every day somewhere "Nice".. a waterfall or somewhere for example. And it also sounds like her new BF might be somewhat of an AFC. Very Cuddly with her, talks to her 24/7 etc
 

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TypeR said:
But Im baffled as to why this situation even occurred. She described me as the "Most amazing person shes ever met" and still does in some cases. So what went wrong?
You can't judge a woman by her words. Never. That's just a rule to live by.

[QUOTE}I cant see anything wrong with the way I acted, so the only reasoning I can see is a character flaw on her behalf?[/QUOTE]

Most likely, yeah. But who knows. You'd have an easier time drinking the ocean than figuring out what goes through a girl's mind.

TypeR said:
Could it not also be an indicator and first hand experience that DJ techniques dont necesarilly work on ALL women?
Well you're dealing with humans. It's never as simple as 2+2=4. There are always variables.

From what I can gather from recent conversation with my ex, shes going out every day somewhere "Nice".. a waterfall or somewhere for example. And it also sounds like her new BF might be somewhat of an AFC. Very Cuddly with her, talks to her 24/7 etc
Maybe he's an AFC. Maybe she's using him. Who the hell knows. Whatever.
 

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Thats the sort of answer I was after.

And the best bit about it?


The "Whatever"
Ill just carry on with my game. Thanks dude :)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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