"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Confused on dating?

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I wasn't allowed to date my entire life until I hit HS, and so I'm a little confused..
The questions may seem stupid because they are.


When are you supposed to actually hold hands?
I'm "talking" with this girl but idk where to go, I've kino'd both discreetly and indiscreetly, but seriously WTF next? I ask her out, than like when does it become like the holding hands type thing?

And like when is it 'official'? I see people all of a sudden become official and lots of times it seems like they were directly in a relationship before they became official.

Any other advice will help too
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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No rules. Dont worry about playing the game and do what feels right. Hesitation kills.
 
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If its in the moment then hold her hand its not that big of a deal. When you established interest and stuff ask her to hang out at a movie or something and then escalate to whatever.

As for the "official before actually official" is basically the beginning stages of a relationship of a plate. All you have to do is escalate and flirt a little and you'll be in that position.
 
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Uhh you hold her hand whenever you want. You need to stop focusing on minute details like this. Instead, focus on restructuring your entire way of life & mind set to become a boss. When you do this, you will not just "understand" that you can hold her hand whenever you want, you will KNOW that you can hold her hand whenever you want. Why? Because you won't even be thinking about it 'cause you'll be a boss :)

Also for relationships I think it's common for 2 peeps to know that they'll be dating eventually. It's actually "official", as our culture describes it, when the guy literally asks the girl to be his gf
 
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