"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Confused on dating?

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I wasn't allowed to date my entire life until I hit HS, and so I'm a little confused..
The questions may seem stupid because they are.


When are you supposed to actually hold hands?
I'm "talking" with this girl but idk where to go, I've kino'd both discreetly and indiscreetly, but seriously WTF next? I ask her out, than like when does it become like the holding hands type thing?

And like when is it 'official'? I see people all of a sudden become official and lots of times it seems like they were directly in a relationship before they became official.

Any other advice will help too
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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NorwegianDJ

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No rules. Dont worry about playing the game and do what feels right. Hesitation kills.
 
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If its in the moment then hold her hand its not that big of a deal. When you established interest and stuff ask her to hang out at a movie or something and then escalate to whatever.

As for the "official before actually official" is basically the beginning stages of a relationship of a plate. All you have to do is escalate and flirt a little and you'll be in that position.
 
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Uhh you hold her hand whenever you want. You need to stop focusing on minute details like this. Instead, focus on restructuring your entire way of life & mind set to become a boss. When you do this, you will not just "understand" that you can hold her hand whenever you want, you will KNOW that you can hold her hand whenever you want. Why? Because you won't even be thinking about it 'cause you'll be a boss :)

Also for relationships I think it's common for 2 peeps to know that they'll be dating eventually. It's actually "official", as our culture describes it, when the guy literally asks the girl to be his gf
 
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