Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Confused on dating?

*Salas*

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I wasn't allowed to date my entire life until I hit HS, and so I'm a little confused..
The questions may seem stupid because they are.


When are you supposed to actually hold hands?
I'm "talking" with this girl but idk where to go, I've kino'd both discreetly and indiscreetly, but seriously WTF next? I ask her out, than like when does it become like the holding hands type thing?

And like when is it 'official'? I see people all of a sudden become official and lots of times it seems like they were directly in a relationship before they became official.

Any other advice will help too
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NorwegianDJ

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No rules. Dont worry about playing the game and do what feels right. Hesitation kills.
 

Skyline

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If its in the moment then hold her hand its not that big of a deal. When you established interest and stuff ask her to hang out at a movie or something and then escalate to whatever.

As for the "official before actually official" is basically the beginning stages of a relationship of a plate. All you have to do is escalate and flirt a little and you'll be in that position.
 

AlexLefty

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Uhh you hold her hand whenever you want. You need to stop focusing on minute details like this. Instead, focus on restructuring your entire way of life & mind set to become a boss. When you do this, you will not just "understand" that you can hold her hand whenever you want, you will KNOW that you can hold her hand whenever you want. Why? Because you won't even be thinking about it 'cause you'll be a boss :)

Also for relationships I think it's common for 2 peeps to know that they'll be dating eventually. It's actually "official", as our culture describes it, when the guy literally asks the girl to be his gf
 
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