Confused about how I feel

[bud_2005]

I've been dating this girl for 14 months now and I am a little confused. The first few months we were dating there were butterflies and I felt like I loved her more than anything in the world. Well now I don't feel the butterflies really and I'm almost questioning if I love her. I think I love her but I don't feel the same way. Is it normal after you've been dating awhile?

 

[Mr. Wolf]

Is it normal to stay with a girl you're getting borred with?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

What's changed since the first few months of excitement?

 

[bud_2005]

I don't know everything isn't as new and fresh and exciting. Every relationship becomes "not new" after awhile. I still want to be with her though and eventually marry her. Are you saying this isn't normal to feel this way?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I don't know...

There's your problem. Without paying attention and recognizing what's working in a relationship in order to continue those things, people become complacent and stop doing them. This causes the boredom and the missing "new car smell" type feeling.

I say you should figure this out and see if you guys can sustain it way before you get married. Marriage is the biggest factor contributing to the complacency of a relationship. The couple feels comfortable and start acting like a typical "married couple" instead of lustful daters early in their relationship. If they are complacent in the marriage, heaven forbid that they have children; the marriage typically goes downhill from there.