"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Confused about how I feel

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I've been dating this girl for 14 months now and I am a little confused. The first few months we were dating there were butterflies and I felt like I loved her more than anything in the world. Well now I don't feel the butterflies really and I'm almost questioning if I love her. I think I love her but I don't feel the same way. Is it normal after you've been dating awhile?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What's changed since the first few months of excitement?
 
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I don't know everything isn't as new and fresh and exciting. Every relationship becomes "not new" after awhile. I still want to be with her though and eventually marry her. Are you saying this isn't normal to feel this way?
 
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bud_2005 said:
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There's your problem. Without paying attention and recognizing what's working in a relationship in order to continue those things, people become complacent and stop doing them. This causes the boredom and the missing "new car smell" type feeling.

I say you should figure this out and see if you guys can sustain it way before you get married. Marriage is the biggest factor contributing to the complacency of a relationship. The couple feels comfortable and start acting like a typical "married couple" instead of lustful daters early in their relationship. If they are complacent in the marriage, heaven forbid that they have children; the marriage typically goes downhill from there.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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