"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Confused about how I feel

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I've been dating this girl for 14 months now and I am a little confused. The first few months we were dating there were butterflies and I felt like I loved her more than anything in the world. Well now I don't feel the butterflies really and I'm almost questioning if I love her. I think I love her but I don't feel the same way. Is it normal after you've been dating awhile?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What's changed since the first few months of excitement?
 
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I don't know everything isn't as new and fresh and exciting. Every relationship becomes "not new" after awhile. I still want to be with her though and eventually marry her. Are you saying this isn't normal to feel this way?
 
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bud_2005 said:
I don't know...
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There's your problem. Without paying attention and recognizing what's working in a relationship in order to continue those things, people become complacent and stop doing them. This causes the boredom and the missing "new car smell" type feeling.

I say you should figure this out and see if you guys can sustain it way before you get married. Marriage is the biggest factor contributing to the complacency of a relationship. The couple feels comfortable and start acting like a typical "married couple" instead of lustful daters early in their relationship. If they are complacent in the marriage, heaven forbid that they have children; the marriage typically goes downhill from there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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