NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
hey i cheated inhigh school too, i didnt think it was too serious, maybe cuz i didnt really give a fvck. mater of fact im in college and i still cheat i mean bend the rules in my favor sometimes....
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That's genius.I had a shytty boss, so I paid a prostitute to call his house and act as a mistress, his wife left him.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Same here,but who cares. We are both young and should be focusing on our careers,then starting a family.T Money said:I have intimacy issues. Relationships have never worked out for me, they always end up with the girl losing interest.
Same here!!!! i'm freakin crazy....johnmich said:when a girl comes on to me i get scared and push her away, and i think its cos im worried about what people'll say.
Stupid but im fixing it.
~sex at age 5, my god, but it sounded like something kids do when they dont know what it means.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yeah they defenitely come on to me. I don't ever PUSH anything unless they are willing. I'm the kind of guy that waits for her to make the first move, then I take it from there.Got a question for you T-Money.
Do you find that chicks come on to you more now? Rather than you persuing them... in intimate connections?
Wondering if your young experience set up a frame of such in your mind, and now it still plays itself out?
Learn what he does. Observe him like a hawk. Notices how he deals with different situations.Dark Haired Alpha said:OK, I have to tell someone and I don't want it to be my mom because I would feel like a complete pvssy.
There is an alpha in our class. He's the dominant one, the powerful personality type and I envy him. Actually, I rarely envy anyone, but I do envy him and it decreases my self-esteem and the ability to enjoy myself when he's around (which becomes a problem when he's in my class). I feel like a hater.
I noticed this thread is not going to be "therapy", but someone with similar experince, please help.
Damn, I feel like a wimp by writing this![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
T Money said:This thread is for anything you have to confess that would make you feel better as a person. Things you are not necessarily proud of, but would like to get off your chest to clear you conscience a bit.
Know this:
We do NOT know you. We will NOT judge you based on what you confess.
This thread is for YOU only.
Each poster posts 1 confession, and if he/she feels like posting others, wait until a reply.
My first confession:
I had sex when I was 5.
Haha thats not tood bad, I slept with my roomates GF and he never found out, and i banged his sister, and he never found out...just call me a dirtbag.....Bat said:I met a hot chick at a local bar, I banged her that night in my apartment ... I got Hepatitis B. I was sick for like 3 months :nervous:
I am clean now![]()
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.