"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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On a serious note, many STDs can be transmitted by oral sex of all kinds, so wear it!
edited to fix a typo that completely changed the meaning of the post...
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same hereNSUballer said:it would have to be a pretty nasty chic to have std's in her mouth...ive never worn a condom for a bj...but thats just me
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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brett012 said:You can get STD's from oral? Can someone explain? I never knew about this. I thought the only way to get STD's from a bl0wjob was if the woman had a cut in her mouth and the guy had a cut on his d!ck.
What are the chances?
I heard the chances of getting an STD from oral sex is very very slim. Unless of course she has herpes or a cold sore in or around her mouth while she's blowing you.
I think even catching HIV/AIDS is also very slim (like <1% chance).
It's not just a "type" of herpes, it is oral herpes. And not everyone has had one. I sure haven't. So I've managed to steer clear of girls with oral herpes. So far anyway.Potbelly said:er...you guys do know that when you get cold sores it's a type of herpes right?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.