"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Compliments...?

Lozz

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 14, 2002
Messages
168
Reaction score
0
Location
England
Ok now compliments are something which girls love to hear and I give them now and again but I'm just not used to it.

I dunno why.

My gf always says that I never compliment her and her ex always did (which I didn't like).

I dont wanna seem like now I'm doing as she asked but I want her to feel good about herself, and I want her to know that I do like her.
I want to compliment her in a way no-one else could (including her ex).

Any recommendations or solutions to help me pay more compliments?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

Mojo604

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 18, 2005
Messages
224
Reaction score
0
Age
41
Location
Vancouver
Complements have to be well timed and in the right places, about the right things. Like when she takes like half an hour doing her hair or something, then you complement her on that later that night, or something.
just dont kiss too much ass, dont wanna get too close to the asscrack, and start displaying nice guy behaviour.
 

diablo

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 2, 2004
Messages
4,678
Reaction score
9
Location
Louisiana, USA
Originally posted by Lozz
Any recommendations or solutions to help me pay more compliments?
Sure. Pay attention to details - if she gets a haircut, notice. If she buys a new shirt just to wear when you go out one night, notice. If she just shaved her coochie in anticipation of tonight, notice. :p Noticing isn't enough though - you have to step it up from simple acknowledgement of the fact into an expressment of pleasure over the fact. "I really like XXX" is a classic (no, not I really like XXX porn). :rolleyes:
 

Dust 2 Dust

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 25, 2002
Messages
2,163
Reaction score
679
Location
Florida
There's nothing wrong with complimenting her just make sure you don't do it too much. If you compliment her too much you'll be putting her on a pedestal and you'll get written off as a nice guy.

I don't recommend complimenting more than once per date.
 

FrankWank

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 2, 2004
Messages
112
Reaction score
0
Compliments are earned, not given.

But you can be like every other AFC and compliment her every single time, and she
will definately NEXT YOU!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Lozz

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 14, 2002
Messages
168
Reaction score
0
Location
England
those were exactly my thoughts which is why i hardly ever do it now. cheers
 
Top