"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I don't know how common this is, but women in their 40s and 50s, and even older ones, often compliment me with phrases like "how handsome you are," "how handsome he is," "he's a handsome boy," "where do girls get their eyes?" "what beautiful eyes," and "you look good," among others.

Girls my age just stare at me, give side glances, smile, and often touch me or flirt, but they rarely say the things I hear from older women. They mostly stare or look at me.

Basically, about 80% of the adult women I meet give me a compliment, which makes me wonder if I'm really handsome or if there's something about me that makes them feel they need to "console" me.

Does something like this happen to you too?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Older women frequently speak to younger men as if they're their kids. Ain't uncommon
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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What does that even mean?
You could not convince me anybody's ever actually said this.
Sorry, but this didn't translate well..
Meaning it's like the women are blind.
Older women frequently speak to younger men as if they're their kids. Ain't uncommon
Yes this is what I've noticed.
But also noticed that since they're older now, they can say things since no one will judge them for?
 

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No, you will always be judged. Except, when you get older, you don't care about judgmental people's opinions.
I read somewhere that young women feel judged or at least obliged to not reveal their attraction to men so as not to be seen as anything other than "sluts".

But this thing falls apart when they are older because they no longer have this form of "being judged" in their heads.

Surely this behavior will have a name. @AmsterdamAssassin And I'm sure you know it
 

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No, you will always be judged. Except, when you get older, you don't care about judgmental people's opinions.
Life's too short. On the other hand, valid criticism always merits consideration.
 

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Young women are less in control of their emotions and less able to camouflage them.
I’ve found younger girls are more likely to openly display interest. If they like you they become giddy and flouncy. And they are not shy about telling you. Younger girls are less experienced so their fallback is to simply say ‘hi’. Older women tend to be more clever.

But it could be a US vs. Italy behavior/culture.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I read somewhere that young women feel judged or at least obliged to not reveal their attraction to men so as not to be seen as anything other than "sluts".

But this thing falls apart when they are older because they no longer have this form of "being judged" in their heads.

Surely this behavior will have a name. @AmsterdamAssassin And I'm sure you know it
I’ve found younger women are more likely to initiate than older. Though I’ve found both are free with compliments.
There’s really no ‘slvt shaming’ in the US. Girls are empowered to Shoot their Shot. Especially younger ones. Again your experiences (like mine) may be location specific.
 
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