"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't know how common this is, but women in their 40s and 50s, and even older ones, often compliment me with phrases like "how handsome you are," "how handsome he is," "he's a handsome boy," "where do girls get their eyes?" "what beautiful eyes," and "you look good," among others.

Girls my age just stare at me, give side glances, smile, and often touch me or flirt, but they rarely say the things I hear from older women. They mostly stare or look at me.

Basically, about 80% of the adult women I meet give me a compliment, which makes me wonder if I'm really handsome or if there's something about me that makes them feel they need to "console" me.

Does something like this happen to you too?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Older women frequently speak to younger men as if they're their kids. Ain't uncommon
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What does that even mean?
You could not convince me anybody's ever actually said this.
Sorry, but this didn't translate well..
Meaning it's like the women are blind.
Older women frequently speak to younger men as if they're their kids. Ain't uncommon
Yes this is what I've noticed.
But also noticed that since they're older now, they can say things since no one will judge them for?
 

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No, you will always be judged. Except, when you get older, you don't care about judgmental people's opinions.
I read somewhere that young women feel judged or at least obliged to not reveal their attraction to men so as not to be seen as anything other than "sluts".

But this thing falls apart when they are older because they no longer have this form of "being judged" in their heads.

Surely this behavior will have a name. @AmsterdamAssassin And I'm sure you know it
 

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No, you will always be judged. Except, when you get older, you don't care about judgmental people's opinions.
Life's too short. On the other hand, valid criticism always merits consideration.
 

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Young women are less in control of their emotions and less able to camouflage them.
I’ve found younger girls are more likely to openly display interest. If they like you they become giddy and flouncy. And they are not shy about telling you. Younger girls are less experienced so their fallback is to simply say ‘hi’. Older women tend to be more clever.

But it could be a US vs. Italy behavior/culture.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I read somewhere that young women feel judged or at least obliged to not reveal their attraction to men so as not to be seen as anything other than "sluts".

But this thing falls apart when they are older because they no longer have this form of "being judged" in their heads.

Surely this behavior will have a name. @AmsterdamAssassin And I'm sure you know it
I’ve found younger women are more likely to initiate than older. Though I’ve found both are free with compliments.
There’s really no ‘slvt shaming’ in the US. Girls are empowered to Shoot their Shot. Especially younger ones. Again your experiences (like mine) may be location specific.
 
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