"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I don't know how common this is, but women in their 40s and 50s, and even older ones, often compliment me with phrases like "how handsome you are," "how handsome he is," "he's a handsome boy," "where do girls get their eyes?" "what beautiful eyes," and "you look good," among others.

Girls my age just stare at me, give side glances, smile, and often touch me or flirt, but they rarely say the things I hear from older women. They mostly stare or look at me.

Basically, about 80% of the adult women I meet give me a compliment, which makes me wonder if I'm really handsome or if there's something about me that makes them feel they need to "console" me.

Does something like this happen to you too?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Older women frequently speak to younger men as if they're their kids. Ain't uncommon
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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jhonny9546

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What does that even mean?
You could not convince me anybody's ever actually said this.
Sorry, but this didn't translate well..
Meaning it's like the women are blind.
Older women frequently speak to younger men as if they're their kids. Ain't uncommon
Yes this is what I've noticed.
But also noticed that since they're older now, they can say things since no one will judge them for?
 

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No, you will always be judged. Except, when you get older, you don't care about judgmental people's opinions.
I read somewhere that young women feel judged or at least obliged to not reveal their attraction to men so as not to be seen as anything other than "sluts".

But this thing falls apart when they are older because they no longer have this form of "being judged" in their heads.

Surely this behavior will have a name. @AmsterdamAssassin And I'm sure you know it
 

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No, you will always be judged. Except, when you get older, you don't care about judgmental people's opinions.
Life's too short. On the other hand, valid criticism always merits consideration.
 

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Young women are less in control of their emotions and less able to camouflage them.
I’ve found younger girls are more likely to openly display interest. If they like you they become giddy and flouncy. And they are not shy about telling you. Younger girls are less experienced so their fallback is to simply say ‘hi’. Older women tend to be more clever.

But it could be a US vs. Italy behavior/culture.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I read somewhere that young women feel judged or at least obliged to not reveal their attraction to men so as not to be seen as anything other than "sluts".

But this thing falls apart when they are older because they no longer have this form of "being judged" in their heads.

Surely this behavior will have a name. @AmsterdamAssassin And I'm sure you know it
I’ve found younger women are more likely to initiate than older. Though I’ve found both are free with compliments.
There’s really no ‘slvt shaming’ in the US. Girls are empowered to Shoot their Shot. Especially younger ones. Again your experiences (like mine) may be location specific.
 
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